That is horrible 😢 I'm so sorry they said that to you. It wouldn't be your fault at all 😔

God, that's awful. I'm sorry to hear that. Seems family member needs to reread the dictionary if that's what they believe the definition of r*pe is, considering it's something victims do their best to avoid! I have some old sayings from family stuck with me too. Just remember, they've never lived in your body through your perspective, and how they feel is just simply, how they feel – nothing to do with you, and their input is invalid with their lack of your life's experience. Feel better soon. 🫂

Oh my gosh. I relive painful memories all the time. Especially the formative years. It's personal.

I had to hide my ordeal and eventually it came out to a very small amount of family at 18 , i was raped by a close family friends son when i was skipping school due to being bullied at school. I was at home and he knew id be there because our mums were friends so he would on a daily/ weekly occurence threaten his way into my house and rape me , this happened continuously for 2 years , eventually stopped but i never told anyone until i was 18. Its really hard when family members/friends dont believe you or say something nasty regarding something so nasty that has happened to you. Im sorry youve had to endure that comment and it is always hard to move on from such comments. Years later and im still not completely healed myself. There are people out there that will believe you and support you the way you need it.