Struggling with Depression: Need Help!

I've been there. I talked to my primary care provider and they helped me out by validating that my thoughts are real and I can get help

I went through the same problem recently, made a mistake, but I hope the person your talking about is kinder to you than my family was to me before I took a break all i asked for was some emotional support and i got emotional abused. I then started emotional abusing and traumatizing myself to the point where I couldn't go to college. So I hope for the best for you.

Hi lilypetal I know how hard depression can be and sometimes it feels like you will never get out of it and it’s the end of the world. But eventually you will. You have to tell yourself you will be okay again. I find that trying to do something that I really enjoyed doing will get me out of it if not completely it usually will help for a few hours if nothing else. Im a big fan of movies and some times watching a movie that I really enjoyed will pull me out of it. Not always but sometimes. Trying doing something simple that used to bring you lots of joy whether it be reading a book watching a movie or tv show sometimes stand up comedy can help if you like that or trying something new that you have never done before but always wanted too. I know it’s hard to do anything when you are depressed but even if you can just do one thing a day try doing something you really enjoy. Just remember you will make it through it. As far as the person you are seeing you should let them know how you are feeling and if they aren’t willing to be understanding of that and possibly even want to help you through it than do you really want them in your life to begin with? I told my wife about my depression and anxiety on our first date because I needed her to know that I could be off with my moods and it was nothing she was doing wrong and yes She is now my wife. Be honest with them. And if they are willing to try to help you through it than you know they are worth keeping in your life. My wife has helped me through several saver cases of depression sometimes it helps to just have the knowledge that someone cares enough about you to help you through the hard days. With school I would definitely try and email the teachers and see if they are willing to work with you on a different date to turn in the work. Just be honest with them too. Depression can make It can feel like your in a hallow shell and nothing in the world maters no matter what you do. But you will be okay and you will get out of it eventually just keep reminding yourself of that sometimes just a little thing can bring you out of it other times you may need a bigger thing to bring you out of it it all depends. there is no such thing as normal. Every one is different so there is no such thing as normal we all have our own issues or problems and no one is perfect. So just take it one step at a time and you will make it through.

Email your psychiatrist if you can, let them know whats going on. First, you're going to be ok. You can try to email your teachers and let them know you're having a really bad depressive episode and ask if they'd be willing to let you turn in some of them late. Second, the person you're seeing will hopefully be supportive of you in this. If they aren't supportive, are you sure you want to be seeing them? I know it's not ideal to tell them about mental health struggles in the midst of it, and it's totally ok if you want to wait, but it won't be the worst thing either. I don't really understand how "normal" get through their day either, but it's because their brains work differently, and we just need to do different things so we can get through our days like them too. Don't be hard on yourself for not being able to do things. You wouldn't yell at a diabetic for having a debilitatingly low blood sugar, so don't yell at yourself for having depressive episodes. What I try to do is think to myself "what can i do right now?" if i cant do my homework, can I do laundry? No. Can I make food? No. Can I put this single piece of trash near me in the garage can across the room? Yeah I'll try doing that. Afterwards, can I make myself get dressed? Yes but I'll go back to bed afterwards, that's ok ill do it anyway. It's the little things that can sometimes slowly snowball into bigger things.

It sounds like you’re either dissociating or shutting down. As hard as this advice is, you need to do your assignments because otherwise it will all pile up and get worse for you. That honestly was the only thing keeping me going sometimes in school. Knowing if i didnt do my work it would get worse for me. You should try talking to a school counselor about this, or getting an accountability buddy to agree with you to make sure you’re doing ur stuff and vice versa. As for the person you’re seeing, i’d say school is hard, they should understand. I totally get wanting to keep ur mental health private from them for now. Best of luck

Being on here is a good start👍 I dk, I just try & do something that isn't related to the phone( unless I'm following an art tutorial but that's different) I try & put my phone down for a few hours each day & shut the ringer off at night. I sometimes call a helpline but u can't "force" yourself out of being depressed. Are u on any medications?