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nalabean

573d

how do you stay positive when the worst thing happens? my stupid brain just can’t figure it out

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    • nalabean

      573d

      @YourLeftKidney16 i love this analogy and am definitely going to use it in the future, thank you

    • Bre19

      572d

      I get that but you are not stupid for having emotions it's ok to feel them it's healthy to overtime you'll find a way

    • DariaFae

      573d

      💕 Simply, it's ok and it will be better. Everything always works out for the best even though at the time it's sometimes nearly impossible to see that. Positive reinforcement goes a long way. One thought at a time, one note at a time, gently reminding you that everything will be ok. You still have your life and ect.... remind yourself what you have good and use positive reinforcement whenever you remember. The more you try the easier it will become. It might take weeks, it might take months but every day to try, you make a positive difference to your life and every life you are by. 💕

    • YourLeftKidney16

      573d

      I put my sadness into a thought, your life is dinner and your death is dessert. If you wanna just skip to dessert it's not going to be fulfilling as eating your dinner first. It's going to have ups and down in your dinner and it's going to be hard but dinner is dinner and try your best to finish it before you get dessert.

      • nalabean

        573d

        @YourLeftKidney16 i love this analogy and am definitely going to use it in the future, thank you

    • ViikMal

      573d

      1. You're not stupid, and your brain isn't stupid either. 2. You allow yourself to feel bad, to grieve what could have been, to accept that there's nothing that can be done to change what has happened, and to cry if your body needs to, without stifling it back. 3. You remember that negative emotions are just as valid and important as positive ones, and that they serve a purpose. 4. You engage in self care, not baths and food and things you need to survive but things that genuinely make you feel safe and comfortable, and remind yourself that what you're going through doesn't define you. 5a. You use coping strategies for when the anxiety comes, like box breathing, butterfly taps, affirmations and mantras, and for when the depression comes, like positive or comedy songs and music or musicals, looking at videos or pictures of things that bring you joy. 5b. You do those things even when it feels ridiculous or like there's no way this could work, because the more that you do them the more you build your neural pathways of doing them, the easier it gets to do them, and the more you believe it. 6. You remember that you are a human being and you are worthy of love compassion respect kindness and understanding simply because of that. And if you're not getting those things from the world around you you have to be the one to give it to yourself. you're seen, you're not alone, and your emotions are valid.

      • nalabean

        573d

        @ViikMal this was super helpful, thank you

    • Xiccor

      573d

      It's really hard to but I'm here for u if you wanna talk about it or anything and tried remembering that it's calm after the storm

      • nalabean

        573d

        @Xiccor thank you for your support

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