Struggling to Make Friends

I have friends but often feel lonely as it is hard for me to communicate with my friends and hang out with them. These are people whom I have known for years but someone I met (online) a few minutes ago is so much easier for me to make myself acquainted with. I struggle keeping up with my friendships but don't like the lonely feeling.

I have a VERY difficult time. Either I feel like I’m too different from most people I’ve been around or I’m afraid of them lying and not actually being cool with me.

Oh yea

Growing up I didn't really have friends like that

Yes I feel so alienated in society, your not alone in this struggle, you probably hear this a just be Yourself and take deep breaths, and I know it's hard but try your best to not overthink! You can be my friend though!

So do i... my friend group consists of maby 3 people, if I'm being generous

Sometimes yes

Same. Literally after every conversation I have, I think about how I could’ve made in more normal.

YES oh god yes. i only talk to people if they talk to me first because i don’t want to bother anyone so if they talk to me then that means they actually want to. but even when they do it takes me so long to open up and crawl out of my shyness that most people just don’t have the patience for that. so yea i might have like 3 total friends and they don’t even go to my school so at school i don’t eat lunch bc i have no one :(

I definitely do. Im way too awkward.

Yes

Same, I haven't made a single friend besides my roommate (who I already knew beforehand) since I moved to my current place. I don't know what I'm doing wrong

Absolutely! My sister can make friends ANYWHERE. I'm a bit jealous cuz I'm way more reserved than she is. I get really uncomfortable when it comes to making friends. But I do have a friend or two, just not a BEST friend. But I'm surprisingly very comfortable with being by myself, lol. Music & writing are my bff at the moment but I'm cool with that 😌. Do I feel lonely sometimes? Absolutely! But that doesn't mean that you're completely alone. The people that I call my friends are my family, and the people that I work with at my church, even tho they are twice as old as I am, lol!

I have a very hard time with the friends I have now because I feel so disconnected from myself, it’s hard to connect to them. I had a traumatic event happen to me and pretty much everything before that is gone except little pieces. A part of me feels like I talk and hang out with my friends because I used to before and I don’t really know them well anymore. In terms of making friends, I am a very awkward and shy person before I open up to people. I’ve personally grown to accept making friends for me is hard and I actually prefer small circles. It took me years and years to get to this point but definitely makes me feel more at ease I don’t have to used extra energy I don’t have on more people when I only need a few who really care for me! The last time I made a friend was probably back in 2019 and I’m perfectly content with that now! If you ever need to talk, I am here for you! This journey is a very difficult and rocky one!

Irl is hard for me like I want friends but making them is hard

Yes it's very hard for me

I do! I feel like the friends I have around me aren't really my friends ya know

It is for me too. But I can be kinda shy and awkward. I feel like I am easy to talk to but I have some walls up. So it’s always hard for me to connect right away. And I tend to become kinda distant. Not because I don’t like them, but I value my alone time. So I think some ppl think I don’t like them anymore because I do that. It’s not true. I got nothin but love 💗

All the time

constantly

Sometimes, yes

yes especially recently. having attachment issues also makes it a lot harder for me. it's hard making friends and keeping friends.

I’ve always really struggled with this. I feel like there was a socializing handbook given out sometime during elementary school that I didn’t get and now I’m super lost

I have an easy time making friends, it's just maintaining them, because I rarely have the energy to talk

Me 100%

My anxiety disorders make it so difficult in person. Online I'm fine though. I didn't have real friends until I started college when I was 24.

Yeah, it can be hard for me too, especially since I have some trust and abandonment issues

me too bro

why was i the center of attention and the most infamous thing in there. i hated it why did i do that to myself i choose loneliness over people and being a person what was that

i hate how i was treated i hated how people saw me i hate that i was weak i hated it

i didnt like that i became my mother. she tends to ignore the past and try to move forward wit you. its creepy and degrading i never wanted to become her i just felt so sorry for her… and then that happened to me and i felt no sorrow for her.

didnt make friends throughout high school. i was so ignorant

I like to think that the harder it is to make friends the more unique and creative you are. Or maybe you’re just not communicating with the right people. I’m always down to chat or talk to people and be around them and stuff so.

I have trouble making and keeping friends, i think NT’s don’t understand me

100%. I have no idea how to make friends in a new school. I just don’t want to put myself out there but at the same time I do. I want to share to someone about how I’m feeling but At the same time I don’t.

Absolutely I do! I have 3 friends and I wish I had some more... I've always wanted to have friends to support eachother and do things with etc. 🥲

What do friends even talk about? It feels so forced and awkward i feel like i just drain everyone’s energy all the time by dragging out conversations about things they don’t care about or by asking too many useless questions

I meet people and chat with people easily, but then I fall out of touch immediately or can't commit to actually hanging out, and I'm always so worried about bothering people that I never try to pursue deeper friendships. When I get married I have no idea who is going to be in my wedding party because I just have no super close friends

Same

Me too! Like where do you meet people??

Making genuine connections is difficult, but I'm still trying! I know there's someone out there that would just like to talk about movies and books, etc. I just haven't found them yet.

I don’t really have “friends” I have one friend. I have social anxiety so getting me open up and speak is very difficult for me. Also, being apart of the LGBTIA in the South doesn’t make it any easier. I’ve learned that if people want to be in your life they will put in the effort and the patience. The right friends will come to you. Just be patient

Most definitely! I have a lot of fear of rejection and intrusive thoughts that make me think nobody likes me. It's so hard

I do too. ☹️

I can count my friends on one hand

I feel like it's harder then it should be