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Anon7

727d

I don't know how to make friends that I really get along with. I tend to misunderstand a lot. Often. I also have a lot of anxiety and other things. I want people who I can really get along with. But right now it feels like the only two who I really get along with are my therapist and a therapist that works there as well who I do not personally see for my treatment. I love talking to them, but maybe it is because they are therapists so they are different? I don't know.. I tried to see if I could talk to the one who I do not go to for treatment if we could talk outside of the building. She isn't sure if she's allowed. With how the conversation went, I'm not sure if I'm supposed to find out and let her know or what. I don't want to accidentally cross a boundary with her or something. I just genuinely don't know. There's no one else in this state that I get along with. I feel painfully lonely. I don't know about trying apps to make friends (Like Bumble) because of how many want a face picture. With my gender and sexuality, I don't fully feel like that's safe.. But I know the loneliness is getting to me badly, because I could tell the changes emotionally and mentally when my therapist gave me a hug one day, and today when the other one was being so kind and really close. My therapist was perfectly fine with me trying to reach out to her five years after we no longer see each other for my therapy because that is how that works, at least here. Which is fine enough, though I wish it was shorter. She seems possibly interested in keeping in touch when that day comes. But I have no idea about the other person, and she honestly didn't seem sure on how that works since she isn't my therapist. Please, what can I do to meet people who I get along with like this and be safe? What apps or something? I do want at least one freakin person in this area who I can be friends with like this.

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    • Anon7

      726d

      @KatGPT Thank you for this. I hope that you meet many people who you are able to connect well with.

    • KatGPT

      726d

      Making friends can be hard for me too at times. Tbh I am actually a very social person, meaning I like to talk to a lot of people, but no one really has the same interests as me. So let me say you are not alone. I personally have Asperger's, and even understanding social cues like "I don't want to talk to you" or "I'm not interested" has been difficult for me since I was really little. I'm not great at giving advice, but I will say this: there will always be someone for someone. Meaning you will meet people. Just try to interact and maybe even spark a conversation with someone, and you never know. You might actually find someone that you become best friends with. That's how I met my best friend. Even though we don't have much in common with each other, we are there for each other, and we listen to each other's interests. Just be a good listener, and even though you might not be crazy about the interests people have when you get to talking to them, just listen, and then maybe, just maybe, you and someone you get to know may have a good connection on interests! I believe in you. You got this! It may be scary and uncomfortable, but you got this!

      • Anon7

        726d

        @KatGPT Thank you for this. I hope that you meet many people who you are able to connect well with.

        • KatGPT

          726d

          @Anon7 you're welcome. I hope you do as well. :)

    • BonnieBubblegum

      727d

      No real advice but understand this all too well! 💕

    • NonbinarySlytherin

      727d

      Wanna be friends? I feel this. With autism and PTSD I have had a hard a hard time making friends. I'm also part of the LGBTQ+ community.

      • Anon7

        727d

        @NonbinarySlytherin I did not register that this had a reply option until after I sent the freakin' message. I apologize for that. Well, if you would like to talk, I sent that, so you can reply if you wanted. ^ ^

    • BREADANDBEANS

      727d

      I have had similar problems. Still do. If it weren't for my family I would not have anyone. I'm trying whatever I can to make friends. It hurt very much when I told someone this recently, and they brushed me off. They didn't want to stop being selfish for just a little bit in order to give me a chance. But some part of me believes that people like us were put into the world to reveal that side of people. To expose their pettiness, fakeness, and shallowness. It's not your fault. The right people are out there. I believe it. We just have to find them and make our best efforts.

      • Anon7

        727d

        @BREADANDBEANS I hope this gets better for you soon.

    • Ena_Silvoc

      727d

      I know the feeling... had I not gone to college, I wouldn't have met my best friend and I have such a difficult time keeping relationships especially after moving and not seeing people in person anymore. It's really hard to make friends when you have no other connections. I'm sorry I don't really have any advice.. I'm not sure what I would do either.. but maybe someone else might.

      • Anon7

        727d

        @Ena_Silvoc I hope that this gets easier for you soon, and that you are able to make as many friendships as you want.

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