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skyewalker

450d

It’s so hard to make friends with social anxiety. And then if I do make friends, I can’t keep them because of my borderline personality disorder. It’s so difficult

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    • Rory_

      435d

      I have both of these conditions and I fully understand where you’re coming from. I personally found it easier to connect and befriend others who also have either BPD or anxiety (even perhaps both). As they seem to be the only ones who can truly understand why you are the way you are and why you do what they do. I met one of my closest friends in a DBT group therapy meeting and they understand my habits and symptoms more so than any of my other friends and never get passive aggressive when I show signs/symptoms of my illness. Living with BPD is painful, and it can seem like you’re always at a loss— but keep pushing. You’ve got this.

    • Rory_

      435d

      I have both of these conditions and I fully understand where you’re coming from. I personally found it easier to connect and befriend others who also have either BPD or anxiety (even perhaps both). As they seem to be the only ones who can truly understand why you are the way you are and why you do what they do. I met one of my closest friends in a DBT group therapy meeting and they understand my habits and symptoms more so than any of my other friends and never get passive aggressive when I show signs/symptoms of my illness. Living with BPD is painful, and it can seem like you’re always at a loss— but keep pushing. You’ve got this.

    • PixieTrix

      440d

      Have you tried joining a group based on a shared interest? That usually gets the conversation started.

      • skyewalker

        435d

        @PixieTrix i’m actually secretary of poetry club but everyone there doesn’t actually like or write good poetry, they just think they do

        • PixieTrix

          435d

          @skyewalker Do you have any other interest.. if that route is shot another might not be.

    • Jane123

      447d

      I'm sorry 😔 same thing happens to me. I've been living in the city where I am now for about two years and I have maybe 4 friends ... Not sure one of them is still speaking to me. Do you know meetup or couchsurfing? It can be a nice and casual way to meet new people.

      • skyewalker

        442d

        @Jane123 i’m not old enough for that, still in school

    • KatieGB

      448d

      I'm still looking for something like social training to help with this I'll let you know if I find anything

    • KatieGB

      450d

      Ever thought of community groups? I go to a social group at the local college, we are all neurodiverse

      • InsidiousAnomaly

        448d

        @KatieGB as not the op though, trying to go to a social group and not know someone there...would be hard for me.

        • skyewalker

          448d

          @InsidiousAnomaly when i say it’s hard for me to make friends everyone always recommends making friends?? Like the issue is that I can’t lmao

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