Struggling to Listen: ADD or Autism?

Yeah I do. I'm bad at listening and remembering

Yeah, I have both as well so I can’t help you figure out which one

Both autism and ADHD can cause short term memory issues but it's much much more common in ADHD. From the outside it frequently seems like not listening well because you might not remember a single part of the conversation/instructions or you might forget all of it, or even a mix of both where you need a repeat of the conversation/instructions because hi forgot right away and then a reminder of at least part of them later ornvice versa. It also gets worse if you're distracted at all even if you were still listening because your brain might forget everything but the distraction. It can help to take notes or make a mental note that you write down later and then set reminders for the expected deadline or your own personal deadline, this is also a symptom I noticed was manageable by meds for me but it took a second for the meds to build up and was the first symptom to come back as I grew a tolerance so it was only treated for a few months at a time.

Sounds like the inattention part of ADD! Yeah, sometimes if people talk for too long i forget a lot of what they were talking about. I wish for people to keep their speeches short and to the point 😅