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Does anyone have issues explaining your symptoms to your family at all? The other day I was talking to my brother and then suddenly I started to flash back to something that happened to me, and I stopped responding to anything he was saying to me, and he became very frustrated with me. I tried to explain that when I go into states like this that I can't break myself out of it, but he didn't really take that answer seriously, and no answer seems to be good enough for my family when I try to explain myself and it's mentally exhausting. It's hard to explain myself when they didn't go through what I went through.

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    • KittyKatKuo

      779d

      One of the toughest pills to swallow in your life will be the realization that no matter how much we talk and explain and bend over backwards to try to get outsiders to understand, they can't and or won't understand even a fraction of it. To them we say we are hurt in reality out hurt runs so violently deep and has effected our lives so much we feel robbed of who we could've been. But from their view it's oh you were hurt bad..but why do you act weird but why you can't get over it by now I don't get it? But that's just it, they don't get it and will never get it. They didn't have to live through it, they didn't get put through the trauma, they weren't twisted and torn beyond compacity. They didn't scream into the void or wish for someone or anyone to come save them. They didn't have to go through what you did. They got to live their lives as per normal while you were hurt and robbed of parts of yourself. So honestly although we will always wish our families or friends understood us as that would be sooo nice, it won't happen. But honestly to hell with anyone that won't bother to try to at least respect the fact you were hurt and altered without consent in some way.

    • Cafe

      779d

      Unfortunately families are extremely complicated. I know mine try to understand but they truly don’t. I get a lot of “why can’t you get over it” or “what’s wrong with you.” My personal favorite “stop being a victim.” I know that they don’t mean it in a bad way, but it still hurts. I have learned to not take things personally and forgive quickly with family. I realized that they just feel helpless so instead of being empathetic to our situation they put their foot in their mouth, so to speak. People really hate feeling helpless.

    • KittyKatKuo

      779d

      One of the toughest pills to swallow in your life will be the realization that no matter how much we talk and explain and bend over backwards to try to get outsiders to understand, they can't and or won't understand even a fraction of it. To them we say we are hurt in reality out hurt runs so violently deep and has effected our lives so much we feel robbed of who we could've been. But from their view it's oh you were hurt bad..but why do you act weird but why you can't get over it by now I don't get it? But that's just it, they don't get it and will never get it. They didn't have to live through it, they didn't get put through the trauma, they weren't twisted and torn beyond compacity. They didn't scream into the void or wish for someone or anyone to come save them. They didn't have to go through what you did. They got to live their lives as per normal while you were hurt and robbed of parts of yourself. So honestly although we will always wish our families or friends understood us as that would be sooo nice, it won't happen. But honestly to hell with anyone that won't bother to try to at least respect the fact you were hurt and altered without consent in some way.

    • Natali

      779d

      Yes I also have difficulty explaining to my family about what I'm going through. I never went through exactly what you went through but there are certain things that people will say that are pretty innocent but will get me angry when I hear it. The reason for that is because it reminds me of what someone has said or done to me in the past. At least you stop responding to him. Usually when I get into the situations I get very angry and sometimes attacked the person verbally which is not good. It's sad when family is not willing to be understanding of what you're going through. I say try to find someone who you can talk to that is understanding of what you had been through in the past. As for your family I think it might be best if you don't get into deep conversations with them. Better to keep it General. That's what I have been doing with my family and it works. We don't argue as much as we used to before. Also I have a friend who I can talk to when I get into those bad moments

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