Struggling with Socializing: Shutting Down in Public

Does anyone else have the problem of being out, doing something with friends or whoever and whatever, enjoying yourself and out of nowhere you just shut down? I used to be able to spend hours with my friends or family but now I can barely make it past 2 hours. It's like I get overstimulated or something just snaps and all of a sudden I want to be alone in my room. I feel like it might be normal considering my conditions, but I've never really had this problem before. At least not this severely. I feel bad for leaving sometimes even though most know what's going on. It's annoying and I just want to be able to enjoy myself again with them.

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Cookiee

2y ago

I do not have kids of my own but I do empathize with others who do. I have close to 20 nephews and nieces. 3 of which I grew up with. Kids drain the living crap out of me nowadays. Lol

Natdacat

2y ago

I hear ya! My youngest is 7 so it's not too bad.

Cookiee

2y ago

Now that I've read these comments, it dawned on me that I think it happens more when there are young kids around. It can still happen at other times but I think it's less likely. I can hang out with my bestie all day but he calms the storms within me so I crave his presence quite often. But it definitely is sad when it happens and I also feel bad that I just want to be alone. I appreciate all the replies. So thank you guys :)

Natdacat

2y ago

I understand! I have 3 kids and they are definitely a trigger sometimes. It's really hard cause we all love our kids and don't want to hurt their little feelings but sometimes mommy has to be alone and smoke her medicine lol

theShadowGrove

2y ago

That used to happen to me at my old job, but stopped when I stopped working there. Maybe try doing those things you do with them, but alone, and see if you shut down. Or try doing smthg with them that you've never done before. Basically I'm suggesting eliminating smthg to narrow down what's causing the shut downs

Jtinee

2y ago

Happens to me all the time. As I got older I was less and less able to be in situations like this and now I feel like I’m a bad person because I’m withdrawn

Natdacat

2y ago

Yes it is sad. I like to be alone alot. To much commotion makes me very overwhelmed very fast. Which is really hard because I have three children. I can barely focus on anything.

Oarfish

2y ago

The same thing happens with me! For me personally, I know it's because I used up all my energy socializing and need time to myself to get my energy back. It may seem out of nowhere, and maybe it is, but I'd say first see how long it takes until you feel like you're shutting down while spending time with them to see if there's an average length of time. Then you can make plans that fit your body's boundaries. So many things suck up our energy so it's very frustrating :(

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