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Jeremywh

485d

Should I ReMask? I feel like I’m not going to get very far without it and it seems like people liked me more. I’m just wondering about others experiences

    • AnimalBoy

      484d

      I feel like the important thing to remember about masking is that it takes balance. When I was younger I was masked always, which is draining and depressing and even made my CFS so much worse. As an adult I struggle to mask at all because I don't really know how to do so in a masculine way, since when I was young I was both masking autism and being trans, that makes it incredibly hard to function in social situations that I need to seem "normal" in. More recently it's become easier to mask in certain situations that I need it, that doesn't wear me out or make me depressed because I mask for a short time and I come home/hang up and I'm surrounded by people I'm allowed to be autistic with and i can be unmasked and relaxed most of the time while still being able to mask in the situations I need it.

    • Sydie_Bear

      485d

      Ask yourself why you’re doing it! If you’re going to start masking again just because other people expect you to then that’s silly. But I feel like my masking makes my life more comfortable usually as long as I get a break from masking.

      • Jeremywh

        485d

        @Sydie_Bear check my response to the other comment. Do you think that’s the right reason? I do not care at all about social conformity I care completely about my own success and being genuine in a disingenuous world, might become an obstacle.

    • Pluto_134340

      485d

      I am unsure on your specific experience but masking tends to drain me and kill my vibe a lot eventually leads to me being extra of a people pleaser. I hear a lot of experiences on social media in people saying unmasking has helped them feel more like them. So never let someone dim your light I don't know your situation but maybe surround yourself with people more like you. I mainly just mask at work or around rude people to avoid conflict due to my bad wording and some other stuff but I try to avoid those people anyways. People should like you for u. I hope u find ur people but it definitely takes time so listen to what you're more comfortable with and how you feel during and after masking

      • Jeremywh

        485d

        @Pluto_134340 I’m slowly finding them, easy to spot if you know what to look for

      • Jeremywh

        485d

        @Pluto_134340 let me explain, for many years I was making starting at age around 10, that’s also when I started becoming depressed. Cut to age 20 im diagnosed, aware and brutally unmasked, feeling like my years of social development was a lie and kinda feeling like I have to start over. Cut to now, age almost 21, and I feel I’ve been given an opportunity. Rather than an unconscious mask, I become whoever I want to be and wear that as a conscious one, because honestly my genuine self is off putting to people, they tell me I’m rude. They always did when I was myself. But I’m worried I’ll become depressed like before but I kinda am now. All those failed interactions every day every week makes me sad.

        • Jeremywh

          485d

          @Jeremywh It autocorrected masking

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