Should I ReMask? Seeking Advice on Social Anxiety

I feel like the important thing to remember about masking is that it takes balance. When I was younger I was masked always, which is draining and depressing and even made my CFS so much worse. As an adult I struggle to mask at all because I don't really know how to do so in a masculine way, since when I was young I was both masking autism and being trans, that makes it incredibly hard to function in social situations that I need to seem "normal" in. More recently it's become easier to mask in certain situations that I need it, that doesn't wear me out or make me depressed because I mask for a short time and I come home/hang up and I'm surrounded by people I'm allowed to be autistic with and i can be unmasked and relaxed most of the time while still being able to mask in the situations I need it.

Ask yourself why you’re doing it! If you’re going to start masking again just because other people expect you to then that’s silly. But I feel like my masking makes my life more comfortable usually as long as I get a break from masking.

I am unsure on your specific experience but masking tends to drain me and kill my vibe a lot eventually leads to me being extra of a people pleaser. I hear a lot of experiences on social media in people saying unmasking has helped them feel more like them. So never let someone dim your light I don't know your situation but maybe surround yourself with people more like you. I mainly just mask at work or around rude people to avoid conflict due to my bad wording and some other stuff but I try to avoid those people anyways. People should like you for u. I hope u find ur people but it definitely takes time so listen to what you're more comfortable with and how you feel during and after masking