How to deal with sexual incompatibility in a relationship?

Communication is the biggest thing for me and my husband. For me sex is incredibly emotionally reassuring and I feel the biggest amount of love that way. I know my PTSD has a big factor in that. Me and my husband had a long conversation about what we expected in our sex lives and heard each other out honestly and freely. I need sex to feel loved and cared for right now so we came up with a system. We are a young couple, both 21 y/o with no kids, and we schedule sex. That way it makes me feel secure in the fact that I will get what I need and he can be prepared and we both know the expectations for the day. The biggest issue I had was being rejected over and over and not knowing when I was going to get that attention again. So my recommendation is scheduling. That doesn't mean any days where it's not scheduled to be celibate days, but rather days when either can happen but there is no expectation of sex.

I’m the opposite. My fiancée is very sexual and it’s hard bc my meds lower my sex drive. Form the opposite perspective, I recommend good communication, encouraging him to take supplements for libido, and trying the art of seduction. Talk about love languages, your needs, and finding other ways of sexual touch without sex has helped our relationship. But it’s incredibly difficult. Couples counseling or a sex therapist may help. In my case, anxiety lowers my drive for sex a lot too. Best wishes to you

I always try to remind myself that relationships change and evolve, and that’s okay. So when you work through problems, don’t focus on matching the past, just focus on a new normal that you are happy with

Ok, so as someone who struggles with hypersexuality while manic, and hyposexuality when depressed, I recommend getting a toy. It's weird, but it's true. You may not be able to get your fiancee to your level, just as you may not be able to get on their level. Best thing you can do is take care of it yourself. That prevents the possibility of seeking that elsewhere, and it in itself can help relationships if you can make it a "team sport." Now, this isn't a cure-all and may not work for y'all, but it is a good, healthy start and worth a shot if y'all aren't opposed to it. Some people think polygamy works, but that is dicey waters and can easily offend someone as well as breaking trust inadvertently. ✌🏻