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bunnni

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i am scared to make friends both on here and in real life because i get like kinda attached (?) super fast and want to talk so much. i feel like i just scare people away. usually people don’t respond and i’m scared it’s something i’m doing.

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    • PinkPupButt

      797d

      hey I totally get this! I feel the same way all the time, I've just started to think that "if they truly cared and wanted to be my friend/in my life, they'd listen and engage with me." it kinda sucks cause at first it was kinda negative, like a "no one cares about me" kinda deal but, it's become more of a "I deserve better then this" kinda feeling! it sucks that it's like this for both of us but we could totally become friends if you'd like? I'm always down to make new friends :)

    • anagrey

      796d

      Same here everyone needs more friends

    • Maddawg

      796d

      As the person who’s been on the other end of hanging out with a person very similar to you, just don’t share that your suicidal (if so), details about that, abuse you’ve gone through etc. Then to me you just come across as a problem since I don’t actually know anything about YOUU. And when I don’t know you, I don’t care, therefore that’s what makes others uncomfortable, since they don’t want to say they are and put you over the edge. If you just avoid those topics (unless the other person engages in them), you should see some improvement in your relationships with everyone around you.

    • Krissy.marie

      796d

      I'm the same way but only with female friends for some reason it's too the point I'm scared to get close to female friends because they always end up not wanting to be friends anymore and it really hurts me

    • SwAggY

      797d

      I feel the same way! Your not alone. But remember if they truely cared they would

    • Kida0117

      797d

      I get scared too but honestly if you don't act yourself in the beginning then people will dislike you for who you are after you come out of your shell to them. Just be yourself. Real friends will love you for who you are. I completely understand where your coming from tho, I'm the same way. I'm an Extroverted Introvert with a shirt lived social battery 😂😂

    • SleepyGhost

      797d

      Hey, you're putting blame on yourself for other people's actions. Keep that in mind because it's what's true here💛 I'm sure you are a very nice person, this post shows you are thoughtful and caring! It's a hard thing to do but keep reminding yourself that you are a good person and that you aren't at fault for how others go about managing things💛💛 as for the people who don't respond I can give my input as a person who often doesn't answer people or keep in touch regularly. It's hard to keep up a conversation with others when you are overwhelmed but everything else in your life. Sometimes it feels impossible to answer back BUT IT IS NEVER THE PERSON REACHING OUTS FAULT. I just can't do it, I feel guilty for my actions but it really isn't easy to break through the walls I put up to protect myself. I'm sorry this was long but I just wanted you to know that it's the anxiety speaking in your head and other people are out of your control💕💕💕💕

    • hhhhhhhhhhhhh

      797d

      In my friend group I keep switching between being suuuuuuper needy and annoying to being super distant because of the attachment thing 😥. I relate so much 😞

    • rj.crow

      797d

      Me too. I’ve been living in the same area for almost 3 years and haven’t been able to make a single friend outside of work. Feel free to message me if you want, just know I have ADHD and I’m not always great about responding fast 😂

    • AeL

      797d

      I’m exactly the same I don’t respond to people sometimes because I overthink and think they’re annoyed by me or wont like what I say even if I haven’t said it yet. If they just stop responding it must be because I annoyed them away If I have to talk to someone I’ll sit on the verge of a panic attack trying to go over and over a message and hope nothing I say comes across wrong (I have PTSD from verbal abuse)

    • PinkPupButt

      797d

      hey I totally get this! I feel the same way all the time, I've just started to think that "if they truly cared and wanted to be my friend/in my life, they'd listen and engage with me." it kinda sucks cause at first it was kinda negative, like a "no one cares about me" kinda deal but, it's become more of a "I deserve better then this" kinda feeling! it sucks that it's like this for both of us but we could totally become friends if you'd like? I'm always down to make new friends :)

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