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MerlinTheWizard

470d

I don’t really know how to act "responsible" around kids. which feels like a shame, because I kind of like takeing on daycare or camp jobs. but I don't know how to do that "different masks for different people" things. I can’t really be anything but me for better or for worse.

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    • Gingeralamode

      466d

      Kids trigger my "little human" response which can leave me going for hours. I find that being a bit of yourself and remembering they're just our tiny future adults helps me a lot. I used to work at Build-A-Bear and I figures out that I really only had to mask around adults. Kids don't have as much jadedness so they see through masking oretty well so I stopped doing it and the smiles I got were wonderful. Parents were just glad their kid was happy.

    • Gingeralamode

      466d

      Kids trigger my "little human" response which can leave me going for hours. I find that being a bit of yourself and remembering they're just our tiny future adults helps me a lot. I used to work at Build-A-Bear and I figures out that I really only had to mask around adults. Kids don't have as much jadedness so they see through masking oretty well so I stopped doing it and the smiles I got were wonderful. Parents were just glad their kid was happy.

    • _kindly.ci_

      466d

      i work with children as a teacher and have multiple mental and physically chronic illnesses as well as autism. if you have any questions feel free to message me x

    • Ande

      467d

      I'm sorry I can't speak from first hand experience, but I do know there's a part of me that is very child-like. His name is Sanders. That's just what I call him because he sort of taken over when I was experiencing extreme distress. He used to be a little girl too, but he's just a young-minded guy/person. I do experience shared memory between me and him, so my guess is this is all made up? But I haven't needed to use my "headmates" for a couple years now. I guess I'll make a post for this later. So I always feel like I need to be on their level, or at least, understand things from their point of view. I'm not sure if that's the only way I can relate to kids, by pretending to be like them? It's a weird thing too, since I'm not wanting to do that always, it just kind of ends up happening sometimes. I guess I have a hard time showing tough love when they say "no!". However, maybe I might need to become a parent myself? It's always been something in the forefront of my mind, especially since I work in OB as an EVS technician. Basically a glorified janitor. LOL. Anyways...

      • Ande

        467d

        @Ande I want to clarify I have had a little bit of experience with kids! I've had nursery volunteer work, and mentoring in senior year of high school. There's this one kid who likes to play all the time, and I tried to tell him that he needs to finish his work. Sometimes I'm not sure what to do when he whines and doesn't sit in his seat, starts getting out toys, etc. I just slowly and calmly say the same fact that was reinstated, that he needs to do his work or he won't get any play time? Don't try and raise your voice too much, at least that's how I did it. If you keep your cool, they will read your expression and follow through... I think, or hope. 😂

    • sydsaenz

      468d

      when my friends and i drink i can never focus on getting drunk cause i immediately switch to mom mode and have to make sure everyone is okay so maybe try taking care of a bunch of drunk adults it's essentially the same

    • sintristezaporfavor

      469d

      You can get a lot of rapport by not seeing children as some other that you need to be absolutely different around, but as less developed and vulnerable people.

      • MerlinTheWizard

        469d

        @sintristezaporfavor I don’t know if it's becuse I sympathies with being talked down to. But I don't necessarily want to treat kids like there stupid either.

    • Melissa28

      470d

      As someone who also has autism and works with children for a job, I'd be happy to answer any questions or concerns you have

      • MerlinTheWizard

        470d

        @Melissa28 How do you sent boundaries with them?

        • oceann

          470d

          @MerlinTheWizard I set boundaries the same way I would with anyone else. for my job specially, if a kid is doing something that could be unsafe, I tell them that we can’t do that and explain why (explanations seem to really help, as opposed to just telling them no)

        • oceann

          470d

          @MerlinTheWizard same here! I’m a swim teacher and am autistic :) I have definitely faced some challenges, but I find that kids are less judgmental of me than adults, which is why I love being around them

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