Struggling to Differentiate Between Platonic and Romantic Feelings

Anyone else have a hard time differentiating between platonic and romantic feelings? When I meet someone new and I want them to like me, I really struggle to figure out if I have romantic feelings for them or if I just want to be their friend. I also tend to think new acquaintances have a crush on me. These thoughts really freak me out because they happen regardless of if I’m in a relationship or not, and I feel a lot of shame when I have these thoughts while already dating someone. Not sure if this is something related to interception, obsessions, misunderstanding social cues, intrusive thoughts, or something else.

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SaelamVikks

1y ago

I have the biggest issue with this, and I don't know how to fix it lol

FlyingLizards

1y ago

I find myself attracted to female friends a lot after being around them enough as a platonic friend and it's difficult to see that I love them as a friend and they probably don't have romantic feelings for me. I've figured out that I think I confuse the two and get really romantically interested in girls that I really appreciate as a friend and can't stop myself even when I know it's stupid. I don't know if I've ever thought they liked me too or if I just hoped that but was unable to see were not close enough for that to happen. Never been in a relationship though so maybe that's part of it but it's really hard to stay platonic with female friends and tbh females make better friends imo than other guys.

rustyshackleford

1y ago

Are you on the asexual spectrum by chance? This is a really common thing for asexual people.

subtlecoconut

1y ago

I didn’t think I was lol but maybe I need to rethink that

Bre19

1y ago

Yes I relate to this

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