Partner not understanding my mental health

Still trying to figure it out super hard but I think the key characteristic you have to look for in somebody is an empathetic heart

I’ve actually found videos that beat describe what I experience and edited it to be much shorter and easier to quickly share, and he said it turned some lights on for him in some areas that he hadn’t even considered. Even with my dad, I made a fake webpage, with real facts about my disorders and listed symptoms and ways someone like me could use support, and he said it was an “ah-ha” moment for him, that he never thought much about mental health stuff until it was broken down for him with evidence from trials etc I included. It sounds really extra but it helped me to feel understood.

Not just partner. Besides, I don’t even have a partner. But not very many people understand me having autism, and how to deal with it. I have problems like this all the time, whether it be at school, at my job, anywhere else… There isn’t very much understanding anywhere.

With borderline and adhd i had the most trouble.... Spouse thought i was theatrical and lazy. Best you can do is sit them down and have a real talk about it, calm and detailed. What you can and can't do, what you need, etc. Nobody adjusts immediately so see if they at least try, and be willing to have the talk again and again as they learn and adjust. But if they show that they don't want to learn or adjust... well, that's ableism. And you can't stop them from being ableist if that's how they're going to be. At that point, is the relationship better than not being in one? Breaking up is terrifying to contemplate, but it opens us up for better opportunities. And there will always be non-ableist people out there, and people who are willing to work on their ableism. You deserve someone like that. With us, we ended up divorcing, and it was a good move. We're still in eachother's lives and we support eachother, just not in a romantic capacity anymore. The romance was where all the baggage was, since romantic partners need compassionate emotional understanding between them. I hope it works out for you though. Good luck, and remember these bpd helpers: self-affirmations, deep breathing, and walking away from arguments to cool down. These will help you a lot. Especially affirmations in the long run.