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Betterdaysahead

377d

I'm just starting to come out of a very severe depressive episode with very intense intrusive thoughts and extremely low moods. I'm starting to come out the other side of that and I'm glad but I'm getting overwhelmed by how bad I let my depression nest get. I just can't bring myself to tidy it but I hate how messy it is. Anyone have any suggestions on getting myself motivated enough and not overwhelmed to get it atleast a little better?

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    • T.Baily655

      358d

      Break it up in to sections hun. I know the feeling and I used to get yelled at by my mom for having my room a mess and that just made me feel worse and more overwhelmed. I have learned taking baby steps helps. For example if there is a lot of stuff on your dresser then just make it a goal to clean just the dresser for today. If you feel like you want to do more later then you can but start small, you don't have to do it all at once. I have been working on setting smaller more realistic goals for myself and it has helped a lot. You got this!

    • T.Baily655

      358d

      Break it up in to sections hun. I know the feeling and I used to get yelled at by my mom for having my room a mess and that just made me feel worse and more overwhelmed. I have learned taking baby steps helps. For example if there is a lot of stuff on your dresser then just make it a goal to clean just the dresser for today. If you feel like you want to do more later then you can but start small, you don't have to do it all at once. I have been working on setting smaller more realistic goals for myself and it has helped a lot. You got this!

    • MzHyde

      376d

      You are not alone with being so depressed your home gets a bit messy.. I have had all sorts of depressive episodes, and I just remind myself that I'm not well, and that I am human, and sometimes we are just sad and unable to do much.. and it happens sometimes. Occasionally, a list will help. Like, I will get a bit of paper, label it "kitchen" and then write each little thing I have to do there, and with each room. Then I will go into whichever room seems to need the most or least work and potter around until I have done a task and either keep going OR go do tasks in another room. Do the easier and smaller things first. Have breaks when you want them, and definitely crank some music!

      • Betterdaysahead

        376d

        @MzHyde I can't tell myself I'm not well for some reason that's something I really struggle to accept. It's an illness as far as other people are concerned but I can't take it for myself if that makes sense. I normally do lists but it just wasn't helping me this time but I'll try again over the weekend. Maybe I'm putting too much pressure on myself to get alot done and that's leaving me trapped doing nothing

        • MzHyde

          375d

          @Betterdaysahead just take everything one small and manageable step at a time. Even if today, all you managed to do was take out the trash, still a tiny victory! And try to stop being harsh on yourself! 💜💜

    • Bre19

      376d

      I'm so sorry to hear that

    • Juliane

      377d

      First, have good food first, for me good food starts the good mood. Opening some calming or favorite music, I like to dance while cleaning up. Start with small things, maybe with any trash that you can pick up and put it in the trashbag. Put the dirty laundry to the hamper if you have any. Don't push yourself to clean everything in a day. Clean the bedsheets if your depression nest is also your bed (mine is). I usually leave the vacuuming/ sweeping of the carpet/floor at the end. Declutter can take quite a few days, so take it easy.

      • Betterdaysahead

        376d

        @Juliane that's normally how I get it done but I guess I'm having a hard time accepting that I may not be able to do a full days cleaning because that's how I normally get it done, depressed or not ha

    • FinnMertens

      377d

      Always always always start with the trash. Getting rid of just the trash first makes it so much easier to tackle. Then I divide the things I need to clean into "belongs in this room" and "doesn't belong in this room" and I go from there. Start small. Don't expect to get it all done in one day. Or even two or three days. It could take a long time! Clutter and mess are morally neutral, so try not to feel bad

    • WolfieWolf

      377d

      I took it step by step really. One day I tidied the bed (changed the blankets or got clean sheets) the next time I had energy I got rid of food/food wrappers, and so on. little steps, and I had a trusted friend on call to remind me I was safe and to take breaks

      • Betterdaysahead

        377d

        @WolfieWolf I think it's underrated sometimes that you need reminding that you're safe. You don't even realise it's part of the problem until someone reminds you, speaking from my experience.

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One suggestion is to start small and focus on one area or task at a time. You can also try making it a fun game, like throwing away 5 pieces of trash and putting away 3 things before repeating this the next day. Reward yourself for accomplishing tasks and remember that even small steps add up over time. Listening to music that makes you want to get up and do things can also help motivate you to start cleaning.

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