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Ok so I know I have gender dysphoria. I’ve identified as a trans guy for about two years, but I still doubt myself. I wonder if I’m just “delusional” or something, and what makes it worse is I get no closure. There are zero sources I’ve found to give it to me straight, give me the scientific differences between delusions and gender dysphoria. I haven’t seen any attempts to treat dysphoria other than transitioning or forcing yourself to avoid it (which really isn’t a treatment). So I’m wondering, what if there’s something else? All I know for sure is that transgender brains are wired less like their birth gender and more like their gender identity, so my brain must be wired more like a man’s is. I know that my brain is sending me signals of the opposite gender. So what I want to know is, is transitioning the only way to fix that? To transition is to align your body with your brain so you feel comfortable, and it does work. But has anybody ever tried to reverse gender dysphoria completely? Is there any way to get your brain to send you signals of your birth gender instead of other signals? OR is being trans more like having autism? Like your brain sends you unusual signals, but that’s just the way you ARE. Unlike depression and other mental disorders, autism can’t be “cured”, because it is not an imbalance, but a neurotype. So maybe being trans is more of a neurotype and the “cure” would not be to get rid of the condition, but to embrace it? How can I be sure of any of this? Also, please don’t just try to validate me as a trans man. This isn’t coming from insecurity, it’s coming more from genuine confusion. It’s really bothering me and I want all the answers I can get, I just wanna feel comfortable. And don’t tell me I have internalized transphobia just because I’m having trouble, because I don’t.

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    • ajar

      244d

      I don't have a lot of help for the question but it's comforting to see someone feeling this too. I'm 5 years into my transition and I know it was the right choice for me, but I also know it would've been so much easier to not have to transition. I wish I was cis a lot of the time, whether that's having been actually female or having been born male in the first place. I think part of it is that I'm really scared I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life because of this, and was that worth it

    • ajar

      244d

      I don't have a lot of help for the question but it's comforting to see someone feeling this too. I'm 5 years into my transition and I know it was the right choice for me, but I also know it would've been so much easier to not have to transition. I wish I was cis a lot of the time, whether that's having been actually female or having been born male in the first place. I think part of it is that I'm really scared I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life because of this, and was that worth it

    • skeptic_

      344d

      But also, since it is considered a spectrum, you could also just be a masculine, nonbinary person or genderfluid person. I try not to focus on labels too much when it comes to something so personal, its about doing the next right thing for you. Whatever makes you happy or more comfortable in this world. Dressing in male clothes and going by a gender neutral name is sometimes enough, and theres nothing wrong win that. But keep on your journey, brother! Keep asking questions and never stop searching for whats right for you

    • skeptic_

      344d

      I really love these questions you’re asking. I’ve been asking myself a lot of questions that challenge how things are categorized and dealt with in the medicinal community, and society as a whole, and its cool to see someone ask something from pure curiosity and the desire to understand, not just a quick solution

    • spicysugar

      344d

      Yep! I looked into this same thing myself, seeing if there was a way to get my brain balanced with my body instead of the other way around. I don't think looking for this option should be frowned on like it is. But another important thing to note, is that with each stage of transition, you can feel it out and feel when you think it's ok to stop. Personally, I'm transitioning to the point of feeling comfortable ENOUGH to handle it, since bottom surgery is so dangerous for trans guys still, I just don't feel comfortable getting it even though I might want it. Some people don't feel the need to medically transition and to only transition socially, while others feel the need to go as far as facial reconstruction surgery. It's all personalized to you, it's not always all or nothing. But sadly it is indeed more like autism in the fact that we can't change it through neuro signals. The best way I can think of to treat it without transitioning would be to go to a gender therapist in your area (check revues, a lot of them just go "yep! You should transition!" And harp on that, So just be wary of that)

    • AnimalBoy

      345d

      Transitioning has a 95% success rate which is why it's the only thing really being recommended, it's even more likely that you have a successful transition if you get a qualified gender therapist to help you. Also it is more like Autism, gender is formed in our brain en utero and then as we, as trans people whose brains developed differently than our sex, develop our understanding of gender we become more likely to develop gender dysphoria. There is no [current] way to change the structure of the brain and it's hard to say that there ever will be, especially not in a way that side effects and risks aren't significantly higher and less controllable than a personalized transition plan.

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Transitioning is often considered the most effective way to alleviate gender dysphoria, but it's not the only option. Some people may find relief through therapy, support groups, or other non-medical interventions. However, there is no known method to "reverse" gender dysphoria completely or change the brain's signals to match one's birth gender. Being transgender can be seen as a neurotype, similar to autism, where embracing and accepting one's identity is an important part of finding comfort and well-being. It's essential to explore your feelings and seek professional guidance to better understand your individual experience with gender dysphoria.

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