Struggling with Obsessive Attachment to Teachers and Mentors

Hey guys. I am learning about my obsessive attachment to certain people that show signs of compassion. For me, it’s teachers and mentors in academics. I get attached to one teacher and I have a hard time accepting that I will have to graduate and not see them often. I always have thoughts of wanting these teachers to be my parents and to adopt me. It hurts very much when I think about me leaving them or them leaving me. I would cry periodically over former teachers of the past. Same thing with former therapists. It is just so hard for me to move on. This makes me realize that I might not be suitable for being a mother or a spouse. I just get connected so strongly to the point where it is just torture. Do you guys relate?

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Nethaniel

2y ago

This has always made treatment very difficult for me. I would get so jealous if I saw my therapist with another patient.

Izzybee

2y ago

I strongly relate to you, I had the same problem with attachment issues. I had like one teacher I would visit everyday he was so kind and so understanding and always looked after me and I made me feel safe and cared for and it was extremely hard to let go of that relationship. I still think about him a lot. It can be really hard letting go. It doesn’t make you incapable of being a spouse or a parent, it definitely will make it a lot more difficult but not impossible. It’s something that you can work on with your therapist, it takes time. For me I always seem to look for that parent figure in relationships and get overly attached and I started exploring why I react that way and man did I not like what I found but it was really helpful. Your not alone i definitely understand and I’m sorry your struggling with this, I’m here if you ever need to talk ❤️

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