Struggling with a New Diagnosis and Relationship Issues

I'm having relationship problems. I've been in a depressive episode for roughly 2 months. my boyfriend and i met not long before my episode started and when i was in a hypomanic episode, which led me to being diagnosed. it's been rough trying to navigate a new diagnosis i know nothing about and trying to piece together my life. on top of that, i find it difficult to know what people expect from me in social situations. I thought i was doing okay in my relationship but apparently i haven't been and he told me last night after sitting on it for a month and a half. he doesn't want to tell me what he expects from me so i can do those things to make sure he knows how i feel. I don't know how to know and it makes me feel like shit for not knowing instinctively. my therapist recommended an intensive outpatient program on top of all of this and I'm really struggling to function so I'm trying so hard on basic levels with living and a relationship.