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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

My Relationship is Failing - What Should I Do?

I feel like my relationship is failing ..... we haven't went out in MONTHS I don't remember the last thing we did together.... we aren't intimate ...whitch Is mostly my fault ...my sex drive is non-existent... he works nights 7-6am I work days ....he sleeps and works ..we barley talk. and when we talk it's ME talking for a good 20 minutes sometimes and he says one word.. I find myself lashing out on him slot latley and I don't mean to ! I hate being that person 😥 I hate to say this ..it hurts my heart but our relationship has became boring and life less and I don't know what to do !

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AstraDragon

1y ago

Can I recommend looking up the 5 Love Languages. It helped me and my husband become even closer. I would recommend looking into it!
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poodlelover28

1y ago

I went through the same thing. At this point if you've expressed how you feel and nothing is changing, it's time to leave unfortunately. It'll suck and you'll hurt for quite some time I won't lie but it's worth every moment to have your peace back.
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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

Ivr had to do this once before in a 11 year relationship and im still hurting from that and this was 3 years ago😥
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Moonnite

1y ago

Well first question have you brought it up to him you want to go out somewhere just you and him? Also intimacy if he cares about you your sex drive means nothing to him
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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

yes I have many times. We were suposse to go out last weekend and didn't ... And I know he's bothered by it sometimes ...but he won't say it to me.
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Picklelover21

1y ago

A lot of people will probably give you a lot of comments and stories. If someone knows about this it’s me. Me and my now ex were together for 2 years. It started out great and we were in love and yada yada yada. But then we started fighting. And after a while it was an every night thing. At some point it got to much. I was tired and she was tired. We broke up after 2 years and I couldn’t feel more free. But just because we broke up doesn’t mean I don’t love her. I ofc do. It’s a misconception that once you break up you can’t love each other. So you love you bf but maybe a break is what you need? Ig just a suggestion and ofc you don’t have to take it. Please reach out to me if you still want to talk! I’m always here for you!
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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

thank you. Maybe we do. I'm just not sure how to go about that
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FTW

1y ago

That how it started with my exwife. We divorced in 2015. I wish I had some advice, but all you can do is talk to him. If he still wants a relationship, he will talk with you. Not just turn you down. Good luck
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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

he also is divorced. And I talked to him about it and he's been trying alittle more I can notice.
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DitsyDiabetic

1y ago

I have a similar thing going on tbh…… it’s rough….. I’m sorry….. 💜
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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

uhh sucks ! I'm sorry as well if you need to talk message me !
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JennCat

1y ago

Make plans to go out with him. Choose somewhere you are able to handle and treat it like a mini date. Put effort into getting ready, like you would have in the beginning. If his shifts make this difficult, find a creative solution to get around this e.g. I've had a midnight breakfast date before. Look online for a list of questions you can ask each other to get the conversation flowing - there are loads out there. Time and effort lead to intimacy. We accept the love we think we deserve, and it sounds as though you need to show yourself some love first. You deserve a healthy relationship, and you can make it happen - taking the time to post shows that you still care, and this is worth pursuing.
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beautifulDisasterxo

1y ago

he's always sleeping or working , he works midnights then on ours days off we have his kids. So there's not even time to do that ! I try to plan stuff at home but still never happens...

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