My Fiancé's Absence During My Heart Attack Recovery

Hi everyone just wanted to update you guys . As of last night I officially moved my stuff out of the apartment that I shared with my now ex fiancé. And yes I took my puppy especially after my exes mom threatened to throw her in a shelter. And I’ve become friends with someone who has been by my side and honestly doing everything in his power to make sure I’m ok. A lot of people will say that I need to be single for a while but the truth is .. out of the five years I was with my ex… I spent the last three of those years alone. Oh and also his mom decided to come out snd show her true colors by insulting my mom multiple times yesterday. Things got so bad we had too call the sheriffs office just for protection in case she tried to start a fight. And no I’m not keeping my engagement ring… I will be pawning it and saving the money for a well deserved vacation with my new friend and my puppy. And shout out to my mother who went above and beyond for me today. She really didn’t have to but I appreciate that she did ❤️

Apparently I was holding him back and he didn’t want to be responsible For me my health or my heart

Better to have "wasted" 5 years than to throw away a lifetime with someone who is unsupportive and uncaring.

I am so sorry you are going through this! Thank goodness for that nurse! I am so glad she spoke up and you are alive and on the mend. Thank goodness for your mom too! As for your fiancé, he is a complete jerk. To not be by your side and do everything possible to help you is inexcusable. To complain about being too tired and too busy is a cop-out. He is just too self-absorbed and selfish. It shows that he will not uphold the marriage vows in sickness and in health. To make you feel bad for something completely out of your control is emotionally abusive and gaslighting. My ex did the same thing to me. I had a blood infection and pneumonia and was in the hospital for 2 weeks. He visited me twice and stayed about 20 minutes each time. He did call me every day, but it wasn't the same as coming to see/spend time with me. Every time I had something health-wise that put me out of commission, he would make me feel bad for it. Complaining about him not having time or energy to pick up the slack. Or that I wasn't as sick/hurt as I claim and I just don't want to do the housework, etc. These contributed to him being my ex. I encourage you to think about what type of relationship you want. Do you want to continue in a relationship where you are not being respected and cared for the way you deserve? I wish you well! Prayers for continued healing and clarity on what you want to do going forward.

Omg im glad your mom was there for you!! I'm glad you are back with us!! I say say dump his no good for nothing lazy ass!! He ain't worth your time or ours for that matter. I'm sure there will be someone for you that will make you a priority. He is just not right for you. Definitely not good enough for the wonderful person that you are. I hope you get to feeling better. ❤️

You have to do what's best with u. I stayed with my ex too long because "it used to be so good" it was really hard to end it but I didn't realise how unhappy he was making me, you need to make decisions on how things are now not how they used to be.i hope this helps a little

If he isn’t giving you time while ur down , he’s not worth wasting it over … get rid of him

Get rid of ur man cause if he really cared about u he would of been there with u next to u all the time i had an overdose about 6 yrs ago and my best friend that is a guy came to see me everyday and stayed with me all day long he even slept on the couch next to my bed

Get rid of that man

I'm so glad that nurse told them to revive you one more time. As to your fiance,I would ( in my opinion) break it off with him. I hope you are feeling better🙏

Bull crap he's a good guy. He let you go through that alone. A good guy wouldn't have. It take seven years to change a study say. Good for not letting him back. It was 7 years in 2020 but still. I agree with that last part.

I was in a situation kind of like this but def. Not to the extent you've gone through. I was with a guy for maybe a year and i found out i was pregnant - we thought i had a miscarriage and we ended up breaking up after that. Then i found out i was having an ectopic pregnancy and had to be rushed to the hospital for emergency surgery - if i waited any longer i could have died. I lost my right fallopian tube . When i was recovering in the hospital for a few days he didn't come see me a single time. That was back in 2013 & a frw years ago he wanted to try and get back together but i wasn't having it at all - even though hes a good guy- that situation really hurt. --i am so sorry you have gone through what you have and that someone you've been with for so long, didn't act like a good partner should . Please consider yourself and the things you need and the things you feel you deserve , if you continue to not get it from him than it may be better to move on.

Sounds like a miracle. Thank God for that nurse. Ass. Even some of my worst guys at least showed up! Too busy and tired? From what? He's not by your side! The only one that can use that hexcuse is your mom! That's not love. I've known my guy six years, we started dating this year. He's always there when I need him. Always. You shouldn't have to apologize that you had a heart attack or are sick. My roommate currently helps me out since my guy is in the UK. He'll even spot me to make sure I don't slip in the shower and we're not even together. Trust me. I've learned the hard way that if someone won't be there for you when you need it? It may be hard but it's better to cut them out of your life. A real guy who really loves you will ALWAYS be there for you. I literally just have to tell my guy I need him and even from the UK he pretty much almost immediately, or up to an hour, gets on and asks what's wrong. He'll stay up til 4am his time for me just because he loves me. That's real love. Real love makes you constantly feel special, safe and loved. Is there for the good and the bad and isn't 50/50 really. Sometimes it leans more your way and sometimes more his way but you're always there for each other and that's the 50/50 part. You're not only giving and he's not only taking. Sometimes you need help and sometimes he needs help. Surround yourself with those who truly love you. You have three already. That's a start. If ClaireAngel, your mom and I didn't care? We wouldn't be here. It's weird, I sense something about that nurse. She must be a true angel or have some high spiritual connection, I think. I just have a feeling. You can talk to me and you have your mom. She wouldn't have let you move in if she didn't love you. ClaireAngel is right. That guy is an ass. He doesn't truly love you if he doesn't put you first. When my now ex fiance had a seizure, I was right next to him. I was bawling because we'd just gotten into a fight. His family was saying all this crap about me and didn't want me to see him. His mom let me. She knew I needed to and respected that we were engaged. That's love. You deserve better. True love. True love will always spoil you with or without reason. My guy, Alex, says that he can't be with me but when he is I'll get massages and spoils. That's love. And heaven lol.