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Kaiiyla

655d

Has anyone moved out at 18, before college? My therapist strongly advises that I find a way out of my household, as I live with a mother who I’ve been told has been abusive towards me(I still have a hard time thinking of my situation that way). After I come back from rehab, my main goal is getting enough income to move out before my freshman college year and I was wondering if there’s any advice anyone has? Or similar experiences? I rlly appreciate it

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    • LunaSolis

      655d

      I moved out at 19 in my sophomore year of college. I dont have the same situation as you, and I'm sorry you have to go through that. Here are my big pieces of advice. One: Find a roommate or roommates, it will ease financial burden and it will also keep you safe. Two: Do your research to wherever you are moving. How far is it from school? From the store? From work? What is crime like? Is it a tight knit community or a bustling city? Three: GIFTS. For Christmas and my birthday I asked for common items found in a house. My grandmother got me a microwave for Christmas one year and I still have it to this day. I asked for plates, silverware, cups, pillows, blankets, you name it. People LOVE gifting things, especially for an apartment. Finally, DO NOT GIVE UP. I was told numerous times I would fail and end up bankrupt going to school, working, and living on my own. Trust me, it is HARD. But I love it. And lots of people do it, so you can too! Hope all goes well for you! 💛

    • Student_girl

      655d

      I get the mom part. I’m 18, and recently had to come to terms with the fact that my mom has been abusive towards me for my whole life. It turns out all my grandparents and aunts and uncles saw it, but felt they couldn’t do anything to help me because they didn’t want to upset my mom. Hang in there.

    • Sunshineseeker90

      655d

      I think getting far away from a toxic environment can be one of the most freeing and best things you can do for your mental health. I would agree with your therapist.

    • Sunshineseeker90

      655d

      You biggest barrier will be lack of income for rent if you try to move out while you still a high school student. My sister did it though. Its a lot of work to work and go to high school at the same time.

      • Kaiiyla

        655d

        @Sunshineseeker90 it is definitely rough, but I have seen some of my peers accomplish it too and if things start getting bad again i hope to be able to feel like I have a escape option at least!

    • Sunshineseeker90

      655d

      Did you just graduate high school, are you going to college in the fall? Have you applied for financial aid? Do you have a budget for rent? How far away is 18 for you? Do you have a job?

      • Kaiiyla

        655d

        @Sunshineseeker90 I’ll be graduating high school next year, so I have a bit more time to work with and I’ll be 18 in September. Im going to be applying for disability(my therapist has offered to assist me with that), along with financial aid. Right now I don’t have a specific budget but once I’m able to work(I can’t currently because I’ll be inpatient for treatment) I’m going to see where all that falls into hopefully

    • LunaSolis

      655d

      I moved out at 19 in my sophomore year of college. I dont have the same situation as you, and I'm sorry you have to go through that. Here are my big pieces of advice. One: Find a roommate or roommates, it will ease financial burden and it will also keep you safe. Two: Do your research to wherever you are moving. How far is it from school? From the store? From work? What is crime like? Is it a tight knit community or a bustling city? Three: GIFTS. For Christmas and my birthday I asked for common items found in a house. My grandmother got me a microwave for Christmas one year and I still have it to this day. I asked for plates, silverware, cups, pillows, blankets, you name it. People LOVE gifting things, especially for an apartment. Finally, DO NOT GIVE UP. I was told numerous times I would fail and end up bankrupt going to school, working, and living on my own. Trust me, it is HARD. But I love it. And lots of people do it, so you can too! Hope all goes well for you! 💛

      • Kaiiyla

        655d

        @LunaSolis thank you so so much, I’ve been working on getting roommates actually cause I can’t imagine living completely alone yet, and I’m definitely going to keep all those other tips in mind this was so helpful!😭

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