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Chrissyposi

628d

Do any of you have a parent who refuses to understand your condition? Or is it just me? My mom knows I am hard of hearing and have adhd/anxiety/depression and a few other things, yet she chooses not to try and learn about them or try to understand it at all. She would rather stay ignorant than actually help me or herself. She won’t even attempt to learn how to sign. So I get used to her ignorant comments about me and other people with mental, physical or any chronic illness; however, I feel so embarrassed to be around her when she says them out loud. Now she is NOT the type of person to see something and walk up to someone and say something nasty. But, she will if the person is around her and accidentally bumps into her or coughs around her or really anything that involves her. When someone explains to her that there is a reason for whatever behavior bothered her she says something stupid like “oh we all go through that” or “everyone is on the spectrum, they just need better house training”. Then she gets annoyed at me for being mad at her for saying them in the first place and then it causes a bad tension between us. I sent her plenty of articles and talked to her about it in detail and she listens and swears up and down she understands but when we are in public, its like all that went out the window and she doesn’t care who she hurts or what she says. Which is ironic because other than this, she is a really nice and funny person with a big heart. She just is so stuck in the 60s and forgets that lots people (even back then) struggle with mental illness and if you learn about how to deal with people with those conditions then maybe she will be able to handle the situations better.

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    • Chrissyposi

      558d

      @AnimalBoy Aw 😥 that must be tiring

    • forknado

      575d

      oh yeah. my parents know very well i have adhd and depression, but they really won't give me any leeway or accomodations for my issues. everything is just because im lazy, or i don't exercise, or whatever. when i initially told them i was depressed, they wouldn't believe me til i attempted. it led to a habit of me hiding things until i came out and they insisted on therapy. i dont know if their intention was to change my mind, but it definitely changed theirs-- at least about my transition. i think the best way to go about this is to consult a professional. my personal experience has showed me that they really don't want to listen to their children, never want to do research, they just need to hear it straight from a professional.

      • Chrissyposi

        558d

        @forknado I’ve been in therapy since I was 2 and I haven’t lost faith in therapy but it’s just so hard to keep starting over and talking about all my “issues” but I will do my best to go back

    • Duckyqueen123

      592d

      When I was in 3rd grade I had a crush on a boy but he was deaf so I tried my best to learn to sign. Honestly just ignore her if your to old to be punished and pretend you can't hear her until she agrees to learn signing❤️

      • Chrissyposi

        558d

        @Duckyqueen123 thank you for this 💕 I needed to hear it

    • AnimalBoy

      592d

      My parent's issue is that they have a lot of my conditions, and they don't understand the ones they dont have. My dad doesnt understand my physical symptoms and thinks that my symptoms of ADHD and depression are just normal because he also clearly has undiagnosed ADHD and depression. My mom is somewhat the opposite but she doesnt experience chronic fatigue either and it seems like the only time she understood it was while she had it while recovering from covid but she's seemed to completely forgotten. Either way all of my symptoms are worse than my parent's so it's really frustrating

      • Chrissyposi

        558d

        @AnimalBoy Aw 😥 that must be tiring

    • Catlover073095

      628d

      ❤️if you need to talk my parents do the same thing

      • Chrissyposi

        592d

        @Catlover073095 thank you ❤️

    • YanyLaurel

      628d

      Also, my dad was like this with my brother and his diabetes. He refused to learn about it and how to be responsible. It must have stung for my brother because especially early on when he was still learning the ropes too, it could have been literally life or death, but my dad would make me responsible for him and say I was "bailing on him" if I left him with my brother. Bs. It's gotta be so frustrating for when your mom is like "oh I totally get it" but later acts with total stigma

      • Chrissyposi

        592d

        @YanyLaurel it is very frustrating. I just want ti be accepted and understood by my parent but she doesn’t want to even try to understand all of me

    • YanyLaurel

      628d

      Maybe she wants to be in denial because she knows if you have something, it could be genetic, and so that means she very well might have it too.

      • Chrissyposi

        592d

        @YanyLaurel im adopted :)

    • MaKenzie_G12

      628d

      My dad is the exact same way.

    • darkstarrynight

      628d

      Have you tried to bring your mom to a doctor? To have a doctor explain all this to her? If a medical professional explains this to her, she might have a better time accepting the facts. Some parent's ego makes them unwilling to listen to their child. (This is coming from me, an 18 year old.)

      • Chrissyposi

        592d

        @darkstarrynight sorry for the late response but she believes some mental health problems and learning disabilities are real but others are just made up by doctors so they can push medicine on people to make money 😒

        • darkstarrynight

          575d

          @Chrissyposi yikes, idk what to say to that.

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