When to Share Mental Health Struggles with a Partner?

How soon should you wait to tell your partner about your mental health struggles/diagnosis? I’m currently talking to someone and wish i could explain what’s really going on with me sometimes. But i don’t want to scare them away or worse, have things end badly and them spread it around. Although they don’t seem like that kind of person. Any advice helps, i feel like i’m not able to be myself and they must think i’m boring or losing interest when really i have depression episodes and panic attacks… any advice?

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Dezmari

1y ago

I waited for three years. By then the person already loved me and seemed to put answers to his questions. It’s just sometimes it’s thrown in your face when you’re fighting and I wish I have never told him anything. So I guess all in general it’s a hard decision to make on when you tell someone but I guess it also depends on the severity of your own situation because it might actually help for the other person to know what’s going on so they know how to help you.

GuardedbyAngels33

1y ago

When I would tell someone about my issues they would act like they were fine with it, only to not be. My husband still has issues when I have issues but I can usually tell him how I'm feeling and he's understanding. Sometimes he makes me feel worse so it's a hit and miss but he's still around. Don't give up. There is someone out there for everyone. It took me a long time to find him.

lazydaisy

1y ago

thank you for your honest input 🙏 ❤️

lazydaisy

1y ago

Thank you all for these answers they really helped ❤️

Dezmari

1y ago

Sure three years I finally told my boyfriend and the only problem is now that when we argue he throws it in my face. And it really sucks

lazydaisy

1y ago

i’m so sorry to hear that, i would definitely let them know it offends you when they do that and to be very careful not to doubt your self control so much. ❤️

srea

1y ago

I was always scared of this… I had a policy of waiting until at least the second or third date. Experience the first date to see if there is even a good vibe, then trust them with the info if you feel comfortable. But honestly, it’s hard to feel comfortable. With my current girlfriend, we spilled the health issues fairly upfront, not exactly first date, but while becoming friends.

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