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I have really bad memory problems idk why but it sucks nd it’s scary too, I hate it sumtimes especially when I get into arguments with my boyfriend so I can’t back anything up cus I can’t remember most of what he said nd I say nd I feel like he can use that against me sumtimes like a few times he’ll be like “how can I trust/go off of what u said u can’t even remember anything” cus I’ll swear he’d say sum nd pretty sure I remember it so I mention it nd tell him it made me feel a type of way then he’ll say that^. idk it jus sucks nd I wish I could make it go away nd just have better memory.

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    • Nal

      522d

      @WhiteFlamingo thank u nd I’m happy u saw nd ended a cycle of trauma in ur family it’s rlly good to recognize those things nd cut it off,, I don’t rlly have a good relationship with my mom she’s kinda toxic nd doesn’t rlly care abt anyone but herself, but yah I am gonna talk to my therapist nd figure out the best thing to do. Thank u!!❤️

    • WhiteFlamingo

      523d

      I understand that completely. I have a strained relationship with my mother and also go through those circles of thinking, "Is she actually in the wrong or am I just mad that she's imperfect?" I've also been involved with guys who just made me second guess myself all the time. My experience is that if someone makes me do that and gets defensive when I bring it up, I usually don't want to be around them. My mother is a slight exception because we have deep generational trauma in our family and I am the one who finally recognized it and decided to end it. One guy just stopped talking to me when I finally called him out - probably because he no longer had control over me. Another guy talked it through with me and we are still friends. Whatever it is, it must be resolved. Second guessing myself all the time because of other people was a living nightmare. And your therapist is the best person to help you through it. I wish you luck in this journey. ❤️

      • Nal

        522d

        @WhiteFlamingo thank u nd I’m happy u saw nd ended a cycle of trauma in ur family it’s rlly good to recognize those things nd cut it off,, I don’t rlly have a good relationship with my mom she’s kinda toxic nd doesn’t rlly care abt anyone but herself, but yah I am gonna talk to my therapist nd figure out the best thing to do. Thank u!!❤️

      • WhiteFlamingo

        523d

        @WhiteFlamingo Whoops meant to reply to your reply

    • WhiteFlamingo

      524d

      Forgetfulness is one of the symptoms of ADD. My boyfriend has that and I have to constantly remind him of things. It takes a lot of patience from both of us. I am also quite forgetful, and I find that making notes and signs for myself helps me remember things. I have alarms for my medication. I don't turn them off until I take it. I don't take my pill out of the box until I take it, and I move the box with me if I don't want to get up again. Things like that. Try to notice what helps you remember more, and use that to your advantage. Separately, I have to be honest with you: your boyfriend is bringing up lots of red flags for me. He cheated on you, then he says that HE can't trust YOU because of your forgetfulness. When you bring up things he said or did that hurt you, he insists that you remembered incorrectly and turns out into a personal fault on your part, blaming you for something you ultimately cannot control and only alleviate. I seriously suspect he's manipulating you. If it is at all possible for you, please go to a counselor or therapist and discuss this with them. I know that is difficult when you love him, but just remember that it does not hurt to at least get a professional opinion. If he's not what it sounds like, a professional can help you work through these problems with him. If there is something truly wrong with his behavior, then they can help you internalize the gravity of the situation and leave him.

      • WhiteFlamingo

        524d

        @WhiteFlamingo Also, if you need to talk more about this, don't hesitate to message me.

        • Nal

          524d

          @WhiteFlamingo thank u very much I appreciate it, and yah I’ve had that thought before when we have rlly bad arguments sumtimes I feel like he might be manipulating me but then I second guess if I’m jus overthinking idk, but then there’s the nice things that he does that make me think maybe it’s jus flaws like I have I don’t kno, but I do get confused when we have arguments which I feel like I shouldn’t. but yah I do have to think abt it nd put everything together but for sum reason I don’t want to, like when I think abt the things he does good and bad I stop or don’t wanna think abt it or think of jus the good things. I am gonna talk to me therapist abt it tho.

    • Tomato

      525d

      I can’t remember things either. I found that it usually happened when I’m distressed or not focused. Things are just pass me by

      • Nal

        525d

        @Tomato yah I think that happens with me too, I’ll forget things people tell me sumtimes nd then it makes me feel bad, a lot of times I forget what I’m doing when I walk into a room like why I went in there in the first place

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