Struggling with Memory Loss and Its Impact on My Relationship

I understand that completely. I have a strained relationship with my mother and also go through those circles of thinking, "Is she actually in the wrong or am I just mad that she's imperfect?" I've also been involved with guys who just made me second guess myself all the time. My experience is that if someone makes me do that and gets defensive when I bring it up, I usually don't want to be around them. My mother is a slight exception because we have deep generational trauma in our family and I am the one who finally recognized it and decided to end it. One guy just stopped talking to me when I finally called him out - probably because he no longer had control over me. Another guy talked it through with me and we are still friends. Whatever it is, it must be resolved. Second guessing myself all the time because of other people was a living nightmare. And your therapist is the best person to help you through it. I wish you luck in this journey. ❤️

Forgetfulness is one of the symptoms of ADD. My boyfriend has that and I have to constantly remind him of things. It takes a lot of patience from both of us. I am also quite forgetful, and I find that making notes and signs for myself helps me remember things. I have alarms for my medication. I don't turn them off until I take it. I don't take my pill out of the box until I take it, and I move the box with me if I don't want to get up again. Things like that. Try to notice what helps you remember more, and use that to your advantage. Separately, I have to be honest with you: your boyfriend is bringing up lots of red flags for me. He cheated on you, then he says that HE can't trust YOU because of your forgetfulness. When you bring up things he said or did that hurt you, he insists that you remembered incorrectly and turns out into a personal fault on your part, blaming you for something you ultimately cannot control and only alleviate. I seriously suspect he's manipulating you. If it is at all possible for you, please go to a counselor or therapist and discuss this with them. I know that is difficult when you love him, but just remember that it does not hurt to at least get a professional opinion. If he's not what it sounds like, a professional can help you work through these problems with him. If there is something truly wrong with his behavior, then they can help you internalize the gravity of the situation and leave him.

I can’t remember things either. I found that it usually happened when I’m distressed or not focused. Things are just pass me by