The Struggle of Making Friends with Disabilities

Currently babysitting a coworkers kids. We’re friends but she doesn’t know my diagnosis. I’m afraid if she does she’ll be mad I didn’t tell her before watching them (my partner always comes along and is a preschool teacher). I forgot to tell her before the first time and I’ve been scared to ever since. But I think she knows anyways. For reference, I have schizophrenia

That sucks. I know I might definitely have this problem when I go to college, being fat, black and chronically ill doesn't make it easy. I feel like so many people in my social group don't really care? It's feels super lonely. We share a lot of the same conditions, you can pm me if you want 💞

First of all... if you are making friends that can't handle who you are then what kinda friends are they anyways?? Secondly... what types of things would you want in a friend? Maybe start there and see if you can't find some like minded folk. Heck if nothing else, message me lol. I'll talk to ya or listen or whatever with no judgment 💕

First of all do not think you are without faults ADHD and ASD are faults whether we like it out not but they also can be out strengths. The is such thing as a "person without faults" you- we- are different. Your problems are just that your problem. But i do get how frustrating fucking it is when someone reaches out not knowing what they're getting themselves into and back out. I've been though this more than I care to admit and it's difficult not get to ticked off about it because you asked someone in So I tell people that I'm fine because there will always be that person that be will want to fix you (not cure but they're are people like that too) but will find out that they're eliquipped to handle you and this isn't be your problem it's there's. Most people have not struggled like you and I did and that heard for some to grasp that concept. Just as there are some concept that you can't grasp because you never been exposed to it. You have to understand that you are possibility the first real encounter let alone friendship a neurotypical had so if you may have to educate a few people. Also you might want to stop masking around people you want to befriend because using it to "draw people in" is considered a red flag because character change is seen as dishonest. Friendship is one of the most basic forms of relationships in the basis of every relationship is to be forthcoming of who you are this IS a fault that most people have neurodivergent and neurotypical alike and is the leading cause of relationships ending. A bullet list is a great idea right down the pros and cons of being your friend be forthcoming to who you. Remember suffering doesn't make you better it makes you more insightful.

this is my exact problem right now, its so frustrating. the only hobbies that anyone in my city have are extremely active or getting drunk, two of the main things i'm not physically able to do. so if you can't bar hop or go hiking with someone you aren't worth their time :/