Losing Love for People I Care About

T02

455d

Lately I've noticed that I've just.. spontaneously stopped caring about some people I used to love dearly. My opinion will go from "very fond of them" to "god can they shut up" in mere days and I can barely stand being close to them. This isn't temporary either, it stays that way for the forseeable future and this has ruined a few relationships I've had. I don't want to feel this way about my current partner, and I'm afraid I'm too late. Am I the only one experiencing this?

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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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    • T02

      455d

      @SplendidSparky thats okay, youve already helped more than years of overthinking pfff

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    • maximoo

      455d

      You are not alone, I've gone from relationship to relationship like this. I've found that talking to them is really scary and difficult. So I type out how I feel in my notes and hand the phone to my partner, we've been able to fix a lot of problems this way but if you find something else that works better. Stick with it whatever works best for you.❤️

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    • SplendidSparky

      455d

      I have flipped like this with my partner. He's researched BPD while I was in a hospital stay and has grown to understand that these flips happen. Mine don't stay super long but do last a bit over a week at most. I send him a text explaining that I'm going through one of these moments and to give me time or if something caused it I send him a text explaining that and we talk it out. He gives me distance when I need it. I think it really helps that he understands what BPD is and what people with BPD go through and that it's not only hard for him but for me as well

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      • T02

        455d

        @SplendidSparky is there anything that helps you come back from these? Or does it just happen naturally over time? I think i accidentally made my partner feel like a pet to be called on when needed and ignored otherwise, and its breaking my heart that they feel this way because of me

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    • SplendidSparky

      455d

      It comes back with time usually. Sometimes doing something him and I enjoy together helps too. It really is something where you need to be aware of what yourself with. Sometimes selfcare pulls me out of it too. Like a long cold or hot shower or a nap. I wish I had a more direct answer

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      • SplendidSparky

        455d

        @SplendidSparky I could've sworn I had this as a reply. I'm sorry

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      • T02

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        @SplendidSparky thats okay, youve already helped more than years of overthinking pfff

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