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Miska

687d

I have been feeling extra lonely lately. I'm a SAHM, having a toddler constantly needing something and a 4 month old...spouse works out of the home and when I try to explain how exhausted and mentally not ok I am he just doesn't understand.... I love being a mom but the amount of time I spend alone is really taking a toll on my mental health. I've been so depressed and have become noticably disengaged, which leads to the guilt cycle of not being a good mom/wife, which leads to more depression and so on.... I just don't know what to do or even who to talk to anymore. I feel so dismissed and invalidated by most people I know.

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    • VampireBride

      687d

      I'm a sahm of a 6 year old and understand the depression, guilt, and loneliness. You are not alone! ❤️

    • VampireBride

      687d

      I'm a sahm of a 6 year old and understand the depression, guilt, and loneliness. You are not alone! ❤️

    • BrwnEyedLady

      687d

      Same.. 3 kids.. 8y, 6y, 10 months.. I'm new to this and too tired to go deep into it.. I'll try to respond later. Just wanted to say you're not alone

    • Miska

      687d

      I've had several people say "well you wanted to stay home, why complain now" (not my partner) its just so frustrating. Yes getting out is a very temporary fix. Especially because I'm nursing the baby, its not like I can leave long, and if I did I would still have to pump.... I have tried to talk to him. He tries to listen but ends up saying things like "I dont know how to help you" like I'm some problem to solve, not a person to listen to.

    • rottxing

      687d

      Your feelings and situation is so very valid. If someone dismisses that you can dismiss them out of your life. Someone who truly cares won't make you feel like your emotions and problems are less

    • rottxing

      687d

      Cant*

    • rottxing

      687d

      I suggest sitting your partner down and having this discussion. If he can't be understanding there need to be something happening. As a SAHM with 2 under 1. My partner didn't get it until I told him I'm going to work. I still got up at night no matter what but him being alone with them days at a time 6+ hrs at a time gave him a newer perspective. I'm home again and I'm mentally struggling on how to cope to stay alive if I'm honest and he knows it. Getting out helps but if he's not willing to meet you halfway at home getting out will only be a minor and short lived solution. I recommend getting it reguardless. Do what YOU need to do. You can be a good mom without taking care of you too. You can't pour from an empty cup and it's okay and needed to have breaks and a social life.

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