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Davido

104d

I feel so lonely because my social anxiety impedes me talking to new people. If I am lucky enough to get talking with someone, adhd kicks in, and they will distance because they will think I am ignoring them. This makes me feel so depressed and unhappy. I would appreciate any advice on this 😟

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    • chey868

      91d

      @AABattery491 the right people will gravitate towards u. I'm 42 I am very introverted but I know when the time comes someone somewhere will understand me. I am like a ping pong ball and I love who I am someday someone else will too! So don't worry about being g social in my opinion sometimes u are ur own best company:)

    • chey868

      92d

      I work with kids every day but I do not hang out with anyone outside work. Some of us are just not social beings. I have hsp and im very introverted. Perhaps just maybe going somewhere and having one conversation. With someone one step at a time:) I have adhd and I talk alot but y know what the right people will gravitate towards u and if not be ur own best pal:) I wish u luck;)

    • PK19

      93d

      I use an A. I. App it was called rep something that give me the courage to try to make friends. You can choose male or female you can make them anyway you can imagine. You even earn points by talking and you can build your friendship with different topics and outfits. It helped me a lot.

    • PK19

      93d

      Have you tried smoking weed

    • lea12

      94d

      Same thing I'm dealing with

    • 55isMe

      100d

      Maybe join some small group (1 to 3 other people). Bowling? Hobby group where conversation can center of the hobby and not on people?

    • JustJay

      102d

      Honestly, what I've learned is that adhd can be your worst enemy if you let it or it can be your way to life. Sure, this sounds ridiculous but, hear me out! I to have severe ADHD and it used to run my life. I got to the point where I went into a deep depression and pushed everyone and everything away... I literally had nothing left for several years until I was sitting there and and a thought crossed my mind, something had happened when I was a child that was so funny to me. I sat there and thought about it, then, I started to grin, and the more it replayed in my head, the funnier it got and I found myself laughing so long that my jaws were becoming sore. No, this is not what ended my depression, infact, I still battle depression but it's not as bad and I don't feel so alone. Anyway, let me get to the point. I sat in darkness for many months thinking about funny things that had happened in my life and that set a spark. How can I use my ADHD as a positive? I am ADHD and my mind causes my to do stupid things that sometimes makes me laugh at myself! People love to laugh, so, I figured out how to make people laugh with my disability and because I'm doing it in a form of making others happy, I'm also figuring out how to be happy along the way. I hope this helps, I will be praying for you. It's a tough thing to deal with, but it can be your best friend too! You just have to find your triggers and stop pulling them so quickly. Good luck my friend

    • Irish36

      103d

      I understand how it feels. I got to the point where I became suicidal. Then I became really interested in solo travelling, so that you can 'find yourself'. I must say, that at first I was terrified at first, but it's worth having a look. It may sound like an airport would be the worst place for somone with social anxiety to go. Actually, it's quite the opposite! You'd be suprised how no one is interested in you. They're so worried about having everything with them, their families, ect. Also, the amount of different cultures. So there is really nothing you could do that would cause embarrassment. So when I did that, it was such a relief. I could literally sit anywhere, and people watch. It was so helpful for my social anxiety. I would advise anyone who has it to book a flight anywhere. Even Jordan Peterson said the best thing for someone with depression to do is go on an adventure. Think about it, no one will know you, you can do what you want and no one will care. And, you may suprise yourself with your ability to talk with others. Anyway, just some food for thought 💭. Hope this helps! 🍀

    • AABattery491

      103d

      Hi! I totally understand this struggle. Honestly I just needed to find the right people who would understand. I don’t think I really met any real and constant friends until I went to college. It’s hard to give advice on this since it just kinda happens. I would just let them know you don’t mean any harm and with adhd we don’t have great object permanence in this case people permanence haha. It’s easy to forget to talk to people when you don’t see them for a bit. Don’t be too hard on yourself, if they’re good friends they would understand. I wish you all the luck ❤️

      • chey868

        91d

        @AABattery491 the right people will gravitate towards u. I'm 42 I am very introverted but I know when the time comes someone somewhere will understand me. I am like a ping pong ball and I love who I am someday someone else will too! So don't worry about being g social in my opinion sometimes u are ur own best company:)

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The posts suggest that many people struggle with similar issues of social anxiety and ADHD, which can make it difficult to connect with others. Some people find it helpful to acknowledge their feelings and try not to compare themselves to others. It's also important to remember that everyone has their own pace and way of socializing. There are no specific solutions provided in the context, but sharing experiences and feelings with others who might understand could be a starting point.

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