Struggling with Littlespace Needs in a Relationship

Idk if this is technically a mental health thing but it bothers me enough it causes my anxiety to bug out. So mostly a vent. So like. I was in littlespace and I was enjoying time with my caregiver and it was really sweet and wholesome cause I told him I was hungry and he offered to make me food. But the second we got to the kitchen I told him what I wanted and he told me I’d have to do it myself. Now don’t get me wrong I would 100% do it myself but my littlespace physically can’t take care of itself. So I just agreed and shut down and started doing chores feeling disappointed again. It feels like relationships are just coming to terms with being disappointed all the time or at least getting used to the things you used to be disappointed about. At least for me that is what it is. I love my boyfriend to death but it feels like sometimes he doesn’t even know how to take care of me in that state. If he doesn’t that is fine but at least tell me before you agree to take the role of it. He doesn’t realize when I regress I can’t feed, bathe, speak, or even dress myself. But he just sits there and acts like I’m playing stupid. My coping mechanism isn’t a “game” or anything along those lines it’s away for me to cope and he doesn’t quite know what that entails. It’s frustrating.