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JellyBeanJo

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Is there anyone on here that was diagnosed with "ADD" (ADHD) at a young age, but were never given the tools for management other than medication shoved down your throat? As a child and young teen I was never educated about ADHD. All I knew is I had this "medical condition" that I'd get invalidated for every turn. However, at the time I didn't know that what I was being invalidated for was often ADHD symptoms. As an adult looking back, I can see that now and feel I'd handle those situations differently if I were educated at the time. I was diagnosed at age 4 and took it upon myself to stop taking my medication (Adder@ll) at age 14 due to hating the way it made me feel. At age 27 (currently 30) I had an episode and started seeing a therapist (she had no idea of my ADHD diagnosis) who diagnosed me with BPD. I then told her that I was ADHD. She then started to open doors that led to a lot of education that I could have been very beneficial to me during childhood. It absolutely infuriates me that I'm having to work through trauma as well as management of ADHD and other disorders when management could have started when I was a child, but all I was told was to take medication. Has anyone else experienced this or are currently going through this? I feel so alone.

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    • MiloSunshine

      635d

      I'm sort of going through this. I have all sorts of unprocessed trauma, severe anxiety, depressive episodes, and ADD. My parents "were" emotionally abusive and neglectful and refused to ever take me to a therapist or any sort of help. I ended up having to drop out of school, and lost my chance at my dream career. I spent my teen years locked in my room, alone, without proper socialization. Now I have So. Much. STUFF. that I'm trying to work through in and out of therapy. I'm so angry that I didn't get the help I needed when I was a kid. If I had, I think things would be a lot different in terms of my mental health.

    • MiloSunshine

      635d

      I'm sort of going through this. I have all sorts of unprocessed trauma, severe anxiety, depressive episodes, and ADD. My parents "were" emotionally abusive and neglectful and refused to ever take me to a therapist or any sort of help. I ended up having to drop out of school, and lost my chance at my dream career. I spent my teen years locked in my room, alone, without proper socialization. Now I have So. Much. STUFF. that I'm trying to work through in and out of therapy. I'm so angry that I didn't get the help I needed when I was a kid. If I had, I think things would be a lot different in terms of my mental health.

    • ValS36

      635d

      I was diagnosed at 6 or 7. My parents were hesitant about giving me pills but ultimately went with it. Mom said it was like night and day with me. She was a nurse and researched about the ADHD. I struggled but mom tried giving me the tools to succeed. I had so many problems. Few friends, bullied, left out of games, the usual. We had it under control and then my mom died of a brain tumor. So now I'm left trying to figure how to manage it all myself. After her death my symptoms of ADHD and anxiety got worse and it is much more docile to handle.

    • batqwerty

      638d

      I was given Adderall at 14 but never told I had ADD. no one ever gave me any tools besides neurotypical ones that didn't help. I still struggle a lot

    • YanyLaurel

      638d

      Also, of you're feeling lonely I highly recommend going to the YouTube channel How To ADHD and read the comments

    • Kendra363

      638d

      I was diagnosed at age 7 and never really understood my condition or how to manage it. My parents also often told me to try harder and punished me for my poor attention. It wasn't until I was an adult that I understood, developed coping strategies, and was able to make my lifestyle fit with the way my brain works (I could do this as a child because my parents felt if I tried harder I could function normally).

      • YanyLaurel

        638d

        @Kendra363 I think you meant to say "couldn't" in that last sentence?

    • YanyLaurel

      638d

      Jellybean I'm so sorry about your experience, it sounds miserable and extremely frustrating. You are definitely NOT alone. While I have ADD/ADHD only mildly, my husband has it pretty severely. I didn't know until just last year (he was in denial) and even I, his own wife didn't realize how much of his behavior is because of the way his brain works. He didn't either. He was never given the tools and ways to cope, and he could not hold a job. I had a baby and quit my job and we literally couldn't pay rent so we had to move out. If my family didn't live so nearby and invite us in, we would have been homeless. And my mom said she wouldn't have let us live with her if it wasn't for my baby. That was roughly a year ago and she probably wouldn't say that now because at the time she also didn't understand how much of my husband's behavior is because of the ADHD.

    • CaesarZeppli

      638d

      i was diagnosed at maybe 8 or 9 and immediately started taking adderall for a few years before switching to no medication but then realized i literally couldn’t succeed in school without medication so i had to go on Ritalin and now im on vyvanse. i can’t do a lot without my medication and i’ve always felt like there could’ve been more done to help me manage but now i just feel useless without medication. i’ve always would like to know other ways to manage because without medication i can’t focus, remember anything, or stay still for long. i fixed the fidgeting problem with playdough (only stim toy that works for me for now) but still, all the other problems are so difficult to manage because doctor’s only solutions are to give us pills. it sucks, just know you aren’t alone and this is a rather unfortunate world for people who are neurodivergent

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