How to Improve Self-Esteem and Learn to Like Yourself?

Usually you start with getting to know yourself and beginning to feel neutral about yourself, remind yourself that you're a person and people deserve to have their basic needs met regardless of who they are. If you're unlearning self hatred or a discomfort with yourself its important to instead of forcing yourself to like yourself right out of the bat and start making boundaries, like you dont have to like yourself but hating yourself is unproductive and not tending to your own needs is unhealthy. Then work on stopping behaviors that affect you negatively like self deprecating humor, even sarcastically it can still make a serious difference in your own self esteem. Then start working on acceptance of things about yourself you can't change and/or are harmless. After that is where I'd start aiming for self positivity

some things that have helped me: -stop making self depreciating jokes. -self neutrality/tolerance is a step before self love. you can't just expect yourself to jump to the top of a staircase when you're starting at the very bottom. -knowing I wouldn't treat my friends the way I treat myself. i should be a friend to myself too, because no matter what happens, I'll always be with myself. i should enjoy my own company. -you can love yourself and still be frustrated at times. I love myself, but don't have to 24/7/365. there will always be bumps in the road and frustrations, but don't let those set you back. i love myself and my body and mind and all it does for me. my hands let me pet my cat, my feet take me to rehearsal. but I can still be upset and frustrated that I have chronic pain -small joys and small wins: reading a book. listening to music you like. enjoy the little moments with yourself. this isn't a cure all, but it's about steps. baby steps are still steps ❤️

Start with tolerating yourself. Treat yourself like you’d treat any other human. Self care is usually made out to be *happy* and *positive*, when in reality it’s getting down in the dirt of who you are, and pulling out the weeds. It’s gonna hurt. Getting better and starting to tolerate yourself will hurt because you’re so used to setting up for failure so you won’t get hurt. It’s all about stepping out of your comfort zone, because comfort kills. It kills your motivation, your outlook, and any opportunity you may have to grow. It’s so so so hard! I won’t lie to you! But to make a promise to yourself to someday be on the other side of hurt is a big promise to make, and it’ll be a light of encouragement on your darkest days. I feel kinda preachy. One thing that bugs me about talking to people who are suffering like I used to, before I began healing, is that when I was there, in the darkest times, their words felt like mockery. They couldn’t possibly know what it’s like, they’re so happy wappy and sappy and it’s not the same! But the truth is hard to accept: that these people who try to reach down to your depths, really do care. Maybe about you, maybe they see themself in you. Sorry, I got rambly. Basically, just take it slow because it’s gonna hurt re-feeling your feelings. You may have pushed something way far down that comes back up once you start allowing yourself to be yourself. I had that happen, and I had to stay at the hospital for about a week to fix my meds to allow my brain to handle the information it was processing.

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This is a hard question for me, I am still trying to figure it out. Maybe try doing things you like to enjoy yourself every now and then.