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CaGoddess

625d

Because of my HS I am not able to wear denim anymore. Not only do I put myself down for it but my loved ones criticize me for dressing sloppy, even when I explain why I wear the clothing I do. These are my children, and husband. I embarrass them and it makes me feel really bad about myself. I don't know what to do about this situation. Does anyone have any judgment free advice? Thank you 💕

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    • E_belli

      528d

      @Soskae so smart! Never thought of this!

    • BumbleB

      611d

      Ask your family if it’s more important to them for you to look good, or be ok. Ask them if they would rather you look good even if it means that you will be in pain. Ask them if it is more important to look good or feel good? Finally explain that you know someone, me, who has become suicidal as a result of shame from HS. I am not currently suicidal, but the feeling of being an absolute leper, cast aside by my family, can provoke it. Do they want to be a part of society that is going to shame you? Does your husband want to be a person that judges you akin to the judgmental bitch at the store? Do they know that you already feel shame in wearing what you NEED to? Even before they add further shame? Know that you are not alone. And don’t forget to be grateful. You’re a mom, a wife, that’s awesome!!!

    • Soskae

      620d

      I’ve tried a few and they all work about the same for me I’ve found the most important thing is to find the correct fit vs specific material. If it’s too tight it’s uncomfortable, shows through your clothes and I’ll get an HS flare under the waste band. Too loose and it doesn’t feel any different than other clothes. The most important thing to me is that it fits snug against my crotch comfortably.

    • CaGoddess

      620d

      Thank you so much. Any specific brand you'd recommend?

    • Soskae

      621d

      COMPRESSION SHORTS HAVE SAVED MY LIFE! I can NEVER wear any fabric against my legs for more than 2 hours without extreme chafing and an HS flare. I wear compression shorts under jeans, leggings and every other sort of article of clothing. It wicks away moisture, prevents rubbing, it’s light weight and slimming. Feeling like your body is sabotaging you because you can’t do a basic human function of wearing clothes takes it’s toll and is something I’d be shocked if people with skin conditions didn’t go through. It’s definitely not okay for people to judge what you wear and ultimately wear what makes you comfortable and if that’s sweats or dresses do it! But if you want the freedom to wear jeans or leggings then give compression shorts a try because you deserve to wear what ever you’d like and makes YOU feel the best.

      • E_belli

        528d

        @Soskae so smart! Never thought of this!

    • CaGoddess

      621d

      I wear leggings everyday and my skin is still very irritated. My hs is between my thighs and buttocks. I also have depression and I'm starting to feel hopeless. What fabric materials do you all find least uncomfortable.

    • finnthealien

      621d

      have you tried leggings or jeggings? is there a certain "safe" material you can wear (cotton, polyester, etc). you can absolutely look nice while avoiding fabrics that trigger flares! you are not an embarrassment for dressing the way you need to in order to mitigate your pain

    • Tony60

      622d

      During winter times, I've found a trick of wearing comfortable underpants that protect my skin, works like a charm :-)

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