Dealing with Ghosting: Learning from Social Mistakes

Yes, for sure. For me, im lowkey sensitive to ghosted. I’ve had a history of me mirroring peoples personality pretty severely. Or I will memorize the traits of other people that seemingly have good social skills and what they do in certain situations

a awhile ago my ex boyfriend ghosted me. never told me why or that he wanted to break up. made it seem like everything was fine then he fell off the face of the earth. all i wanted to know was what i did wrong. i found out a year later when my friend bumped into him and got it out of him cause she wanted me to have some sort of piece. only to find out he ghosted me because he didn’t like the fact that i have ARFID (an eating disorder of being very very picky with food) and hated having to go somewhere specific every time so i could get some fries. and he hated that i wasn’t 21 yet so i couldn’t go out to a bar with him and drink even tho he’d just turn 21 a few months before. all i learned from that was was that i deserved so much better than how he treated me. someone who understands me and would still love me for me. if anyone every ghosts you, don’t blame yourself. because i can guarantee it’s not you. you deserve better than that. put yourself first and just take it one day at a time to move forward and know someone out there will treat you so much better than that. for relationship or friendships 💕

Honestly, no. If me as myself is not good enough, the relationship won't be viable anyway. My husband and I started dating 7 years ago today. Our big secret is that we're both autistic and so we use direct and intentional communication. We are unabashedly ourselves and neither of us have to pretend to be something we aren't. Be yourself even if you get ghosted because pretending to be someone you aren't isn't sustainable or fair in a long term relationship, or any relationship really.