Gaslighting Myself with an Invisible Disability

It sounds like you're experiencing internalized ableism, which haunts us all on occasion I think. "I'm exaggerating, it's not that bad, other people are sicker than me, other people are sicker than me and doing fine, etc". I still feel these things even four and a half years after my diagnosis and being repeatedly told by doctors that what I'm feeling is abnormal and doesn't make sense medically. Mostly I try to subconsciously downplay my symptoms, thinking they aren't that bad, but like,, then I'm reminded that healthy people don't have the needs that I do, you know?? Like I've long accepted that I can't be outside in the summer and I sometimes forget that isn't normal Basically what I'm saying is these feelings are normal. They're a product of society treating chronically and mentally ill people like garbage. It really doesn't help when your illness is invisible and there isn't any "proof" other than what you feel usually Be kind to yourself and chastise the voice in your head telling you these things like its a small child lol because you know better! You're not lazy or faking, you're sick, dang it! Just because it's chronic instead of temporary like a cold or flu doesn't lessen its impact on you. Try your best to keep this in mind and know that you're not alone in this sort of thing

I was so young when I was diagnosed that I didn’t understand my disorder, especially pre-diagnosis. And I was lucky enough that my mom worked in the medical field and identified it almost immediately. But I have gaslit myself into calling myself lazy when I really have chronic fatigue due to a combo of mental and physical illnesses. It’s really hard, but once you stop comparing yourself to others and start comparing yourself to yourself, you’ll feel much more liberated and confident in yourself. It’s okay to have a day where you do nothing but watch tv. It’s okay if you need to take a couple days off of work to recover from particularly bad symptoms. And you will (hopefully) feel much better after you are able to see a doctor and they will be able to explain what is going on with your body.