When Friends Abandon You in Sickness

yes 😥 im here if you need a good understanding friend ❤️

It makes me feel so much better knowing others experience this… why do you think people leave us?

(Also I’m 25 I found it just took more time! For friends too :) you’ll get there!

I found only the real ones stick around - same for significant others! It took me FOREVER to find someone to date that I trusted but honestly now that I’ve seen how he acts when I’m sick, I know he’s the one! It SUCKS but you will find your people - it takes time but you know they’ll all be there for life!

I don’t have any friends anymore. Right when I got sick, I had some but I was like their token sick friend, and they got bored of me after a bit so now I’m alone

Even mature people don't understand unless they have experience with it.

It’s horrible! I think it’s because a lot of younger people don’t know how to react to any illness. I was finally disabled by my shitty femur growth in highschool and I got left behind. I understood my friends not including me on mall trips or hikes but I became an after thought when it came down to things I COULD do. They could have just invited me to a place with an elevator or to the game nights but because they were so worried about accommodating me or offending me with accommodations they just left me out all together. It was horrible even though the majority of the time it wasn’t intentional. After I got out of highschool I found friends who were candid with me about my disabilities and it got WAAAAAAAAAAY better!!! Their behavior is not okay even though it is common. I promise it will get better as people around you mature!

I had a friend group at 18-19 where all of them stopped being my friend when my anxiety issues were at it's peak and I was suicidal. You're not alone but the situation sucks. It came down to lack of understanding, and lack of maturity/ability to deal with it on their part. To be fair, I was not a very good friend at the time, but it was still fucked up how they handled it. You'll get through this and find better friends.