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Where does your FOMO meet your condition?

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    • LissyBelle

      178d

      So clashes. Depression, full-time work, and thyroid issues say to sleep all the time and not leave the apartment when I have a choice. FOMO says I should go hang out with friends every day like I did when I was single.

    • LissyBelle

      178d

      So clashes. Depression, full-time work, and thyroid issues say to sleep all the time and not leave the apartment when I have a choice. FOMO says I should go hang out with friends every day like I did when I was single.

    • Aaronb03

      185d

      I feel like I can't have the college experience because going out for a few hours requires days of recovery, bipolar depression made it so that i had to come home and so now I'm a year behind my friends. And even walking to class is difficult when I'm in pain. Drs can't figure out what's wrong so i don't have a diagnosis and can't access to disability accommodations

    • Aiya_the_ill

      186d

      I feel like I'm missing out on maintaining relationships, meeting people, education opportunities, travel, sports, a romantic relationship, and so many more. Most of all, I miss feeling whole.

    • EliteLexy

      186d

      Losing my virginity by choice and having a healthy/normal sex life. Having a childhood. Not feeling so split up bc of trauma. Being able to feel love. More fully. Being able to experience life at even 80% instead of 40%. Being truly happy for more than a day and loving myself with confidence. Not dissociating. Sleeping peacefully instead of battling with nightmares that make me nauseous and throw my entire day off. But then I wouldn't be me.

    • Kmlb5464

      189d

      I miss going out with my friends 😕

    • Cloverleaf

      189d

      I live in a place that's definitely not built to be accessible - where is, really? But no one has made the effort to make their events, groups, or meet-ups accessible, either. So, since moving here, I've been completely alone except the family I live with and doctors! It's lonely to say the least. I try my best by volunteering, working, ect - but it all has to be online and I can only do so much in person. I just wish I didn't live in such an isolated, vast, and inaccessible place that has a real lack of young people.

    • Aiya_the_ill

      190d

      Every time I have to miss a get together with my friends or a holiday celebration with my family.

    • rosemxry

      191d

      When I have to miss holidays or events because my fatigue and nausea is crazy

    • florals.and.fatigue

      191d

      When my friends are going out clubbing and I'm housebound

      • Cloverleaf

        189d

        @florals.and.fatigue I feel this! Being housebound/bedbound was so hard and with my conditions, I'll probably be back there soon. It can feel like you're missing out while the world continues turning. Even now, I see people doing so much that I wish I could and I feel so trapped. You're not alone 🫂 the world turns with you x

    • bookloverofsorts

      194d

      When I can't/requires a lot of effort to go out to eat at restaurants. If we are eating at someone's house then I can simply bring my own food but checking that a cafe or restaurant can cater is so much harder

    • SueLaBear

      198d

      When I was abused as a child by my sister. I grew anxious for events that where elsewhere like clubs or outings with friends because I didn't like being home. The age gap between my sister and I is significant. There's over a decade in between us so by the time I was five, she was an adult.

    • Alyss

      198d

      Between significant abuse as a child stealing my childhood from me (literally in some cases since I don't remember the first 11 years of my life at all) and causing many of my physical and mental disabilities, getting my autism diagnosis later in life, being in several abusive relationships where I was gaslit to hell and back, and having my "full time job" for the better part of a decade be managing my health and insurance companies, I've lost most of my friends, all of my family, and all of my money. Now I'm in a new city with zero way of getting anywhere or meeting new people, minimal energy to unpack so it's taken me significantly more time than it would normal people, and constant physical and emotional pain that prevents me from relating to neurotypicals and people without a background in trauma. FOMO is in constant war with the negative voice in my head that tells me there's no point in dating because nobody but abusers are going to want me.

    • KirbyWirby

      200d

      i haven't felt like i was living life like a normal person in ten years. my pain and fatigue, among other things, have cost me my friends and social life to the point where I don't have anything left. Picking up the pieces and making new friends seems like so much work. Book clubs and things haven't been willing to accommodate me. FOMO has become a different emotion entirely. It's on another level

    • ElizabethJune

      202d

      I've had FOMO for most of my life. My family was overbearing and kept me sheltered and isolated and wouldn't let me make my own decisions or go anywhere or do anything unsupervised. So I never got to see my friends outside of school and was also forced to take on adult responsibilities due to my aunt and uncle taking in foster kids throughout most of my teen years and my uncle dumping them on me while my aunt was at work all the time. Due to this and abuse from my uncle and biological mother I feel like my whole childhood and half of my 20s was stolen from me. I finally broke free and moved out on my own 3 weeks before my 25th birthday. Then the location I moved to was isolated in a real small town and cut off from everything and everyone but public housing didn't have openings anywhere else. So I was stuck there for 3 years. Then after I moved I got into a bad relationship that made my anxiety and depression way worse and he was controlling and good at playing victim and getting everyone else on his side too. So then I was ostracized. Just like I was bullied and ostracized in school. Then after moving again to get away from him and from all that cuz he stalked me after we broke up I got into a couple of other bad relationships. One was with a guy who turned out to be a crackhead who took all my money , my phone and everything and left me struggling but wasn't there for me . Now that I have money and freedom to go places and do things and I'm not in such an isolated location my depression and anxiety keeps me in on most days cuz i don't like crowds and being around or interacting with people makes my anxiety go way up.

      • Alyss

        198d

        @ElizabethJune wow, I could have written most of this, except that I'm also physically disabled, so I can't work. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. It sounds like we have a lot of similar experiences.

    • serendi

      205d

      Sometimes I get angry, upset, or even depressed over how, in retrospect, my ADHD and autism signs were glaringly obvious, but professionals I saw just looked at what prior people said instead of bothering to think for themselves. What kind of childhood would I have had? Would I have been able to have “common” teen experiences that, to this day, I’m still a bit sad about missing out on? I just wish I could have experienced childhood and adolescence with a little more excitement and less anxiety, meltdowns, and burnout periods that professionals said were depression and to “make myself get up, talk to people, push myself to do things” when I absolutely should not have.

      • BlueJ01

        204d

        @serendi I relate. Figured out the autism late in college and it makes me sad a lot to think of my childhood and how things were handled. In the early 2000s, they’d rather diagnose an AFAB with anything but autism, and it makes me so sad because I saw counselors throughout my life because my mom knew I needed help. But never once did a professional tell us the truth, and there’s a lot of coping skills I could’ve been learning as a kid that I’m having to try to pick up in my 20s. But it’s better to know now than never, right? Now that we’ve got the words for it we can start working through

    • PrettyPolar2

      206d

      I have FOMO for all the years I felt like my teen years were stolen from me because I wasn't diagnosed yet and just thought I was crazy.

      • Bre19

        204d

        @PrettyPolar2 that had to be so frustrating

    • lazydaisy

      208d

      My depression definitely makes me have FOMO on the weekends. I feel like i should be out having fun like other normal people my age or life will pass me by, but it’s difficult feeling so down. Limiting my social media on weekends has helped my fomo so much though. ❤️

      • Cloverleaf

        189d

        @lazydaisy there's always time 💗 life will always be there for you when you're ready. Your health comes first and if taking care of yourself means going out on the weekends is a bit too tough at the moment, that's okay! There's plenty of time. All that matters is you. Lots of people have FOMO, especially when they're young. We all think we 'should' be doing something or something else. I bet all your friends and 'normal people' all think the same as you! It's a collective experience. But life doesn't follow a timetable. Clubbing and drinks might come at 20 for one person and 40 for another - it's the fun that counts 🎉x

    • xenith

      208d

      when my partner isn’t able to call or talk for long periods of time when i’m doing nothing, makes me feel like i’m missing something important?

    • SecondChance

      209d

      Holy shit it's a new post !!!! Pain blows 😭 So does depression

    • Frustrated

      209d

      On days I try to do everyday chores and the pain is so bad. I can’t stand anyone.

      • Bre19

        204d

        @Frustrated that had to be difficult

    • jjet

      209d

      On days where I want to go out but my anxiety is too high not to be handled by my as needed medicine..

    • girljames

      209d

      When I'm on holiday with my partner and they go on long hikes that I can't do anymore

      • Bre19

        204d

        @girljames that has got to be difficult for you

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