Struggling to Find a Therapist Who Can Handle All My Issues

I have been so stuck on getting help lately 😭. It's not exactly ideal to have my mom schedule therapy for me, but it's so much easier than reaching out myself... But I'm an adult now and I can't really do that anymore. I'm really nervous about finding a therapist or a similar professional because I don't know if I'll be able to find someone who can handle me having social anxiety AND DID AND possibly being autistic AND being trans all at the same time. I've done a good amount of research on therapy for DID but most of what I've learned just makes me more afraid of running into someone who doesn't get it in one way or another. (I'm especially worried about misunderstandings when it comes to DID.) I also don't really get like... Consultations and the "presenting issue" thing? Like I think I generally understand what happens in a consultation now that I've read up about it, but what issue do I present with? Is it just, like, whatever bothers me the most? Am I supposed to briefly mention everything I might want to talk about? What if I'm like, "Hey, do you feel comfortable working with a trans person?" or something and they say no... Like what do you do 😭😭😭 What if I open up about one of my issues later on in treatment and they're mean to me about it or something..... Also, how do you know that someone is safe to work with and is able to help you? Browsing Pychology Today just feels sort of like a gamble tbh. I know you can sort it by certain issues, but there's also those therapists with those like suspiciously long lists of them and I can't tell if they're actually well-versed in those or if they just want to get more clients. Idk, this whole thing of getting care for myself is super intimidating to me and it's hard to feel safe navigating it. Any advice welcome, I've been stuck on this for over a year now