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Natasha82

393d

Hi everyone I hope you are all ok, I wanted to ask you all something, I work as a housekeeper in a hotel which has a lot of stairs and requires bringing linen up and down which is tiring for us all, however as I have fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis I was told by my doctor I couldn’t work but I can’t just stay at home all day plus I need the money, i love my job and everyone I work with and i think that’s what makes the hard days bearable. When it’s my day off I end up sleeping all day and doing nothing in my home, this makes me feel extremely lazy and fed up, should I be pushing myself more? I don’t know what to do, any help greatly appreciated, Thankyou 😊 x

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    • Serafina

      379d

      It's a hard balance to try to achieve but honestly, you shouldn't be trying to push yourself - not unless you're sure you won't push yourself too much. Speaking from my own experience (I have OA in my knees, one ankle and a shoulder, plus I think it might be starting in my hands as well), if I try to do too much it can wipe me out for days and I end up having to cancel work. At one of my jobs they made "reasonable adjustments" for me (one of the bars in the building has seats so when it's quiet I'm allowed to sit down, but I feel guilty when the younger members of staff are doing all the work) the non-reasonable adjustment part was when they gave me a Personal Improvement Plan (PIP), like I could just make my arthritis go away! That made me angry! But yeah, if your employer is able to make any sort of reasonable adjustments so you can carry on working, then see if they will. It can be a nightmare when it's a physical job though.

    • Serafina

      379d

      It's a hard balance to try to achieve but honestly, you shouldn't be trying to push yourself - not unless you're sure you won't push yourself too much. Speaking from my own experience (I have OA in my knees, one ankle and a shoulder, plus I think it might be starting in my hands as well), if I try to do too much it can wipe me out for days and I end up having to cancel work. At one of my jobs they made "reasonable adjustments" for me (one of the bars in the building has seats so when it's quiet I'm allowed to sit down, but I feel guilty when the younger members of staff are doing all the work) the non-reasonable adjustment part was when they gave me a Personal Improvement Plan (PIP), like I could just make my arthritis go away! That made me angry! But yeah, if your employer is able to make any sort of reasonable adjustments so you can carry on working, then see if they will. It can be a nightmare when it's a physical job though.

    • faerywyrm

      390d

      I have to agree that you are very powerful. I used to teach field paleontology, but i had to quit when my fibromyalgia got too bad. Resting on days off is important. It may drive you stir crazy, but it's an important part of self care. Especially when you overdo.

    • Kmlb5464

      393d

      Just know that you are powerful in all things you do! Honestly, just laying in the bed can be exhausting. Know that we are here rooting for you, and you are not at all lazy. Fibro is no joke from what I'm gathering through my own experiences. It's all new to me. You're doing amazing because I've tried going back to work a few times from manual labor to a call center, and all of it was too painful to tolerate. So again, YOU ARE POWERFUL!

      • Natasha82

        393d

        @Kmlb5464 Thankyou so much I really appreciate it, fibromyalgia is such an awful illness and it’s so misunderstood that’s why it is so nice and very important we have apps like this where we can interact with people who experience similar difficulties, x

    • Kingswife

      393d

      I could never work in hotel housekeeping before I had all of my conditions. It is really hard on you, especially if the hotel you work for is strict on pefection and speed.

      • Natasha82

        393d

        @Kingswife it is really difficult I don’t think my family realise how hard it is on me I think they think I’m lazy x

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