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moldsurvivor

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I don’t know if this is just me but I feel like I can’t be happy because no matter how small and insignificant my problems are, i’m always overwhelmed by my life and I just can’t relax or feel at peace. even if things are fine, and i’m only dealing with minor inconveniences, it’s too much for me to have deal with and i just don’t get why. it’s exhausting. I know life is just gonna be full of obstacles but knowing that just makes me more depressed because i just wish i could have a break. does anyone else feel this way?

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    • KitKat1450

      672d

      @Schiele I definitely relate to that and working on trying to not feel like I need to go find problems or create more stress to “fix” to get my mind off of the chronic low grade anxiety. What I keep in mind is you can’t go from negative to positive just like that. So finding things to do that help me move the needle towards positive, healthier has helped tremendously in terms of reducing the crash cycle because it takes a huge toll. Example- Watching a show that has other people dealing with life or death circumstances or really high stakes is calming for me when I’m anxious because it’s stimulating the “rush” and getting my mind off of my own issues but I’m also not actually taking on those problems once I turn it off. Or just commenting/relying on this app because I can offer help and advice (especially if I haven’t been physically able to help others or do something to mange the energy) but I can actually leave it here. Sometimes I feel like that’s bad, but then I just remind myself I’m doing the best I can to manage and it looks different everyday. And sometimes I need a break from my mind, and that’s ok in moderation with boundaries. My purpose is to overflow so if I feel like I’m coming from a place of lack or I need something then I don’t get on here. I try to figure out what I need and a healthier way to give that to myself. In a sense, trying to create a boundary where helping people is sacred and not to get my needs met and also not continue the cycle. It’s a work in progress…

    • Schiele

      673d

      I’m in a similar state of mind as KitKat, I function way better when things are chaotic or something “big” is happening so I feel like my anxiety and overpreparedness is justified. But then my depression gets bad because I’m not taking a break so when I crash I /crash/. So I try to take a lot of leadership roles and tend to involve myself in helping support other people going through problems so I feel some of the adrenaline and stress without having it impact me directly. The former is healthier, and the latter is a habit I’m trying to break because I know I’m coming off as nosey and overstepping bounds but I can’t stop feeling like I need massive amounts of stress to function when I’m not on class deadlines or experiencing my own problems.

      • KitKat1450

        672d

        @Schiele I definitely relate to that and working on trying to not feel like I need to go find problems or create more stress to “fix” to get my mind off of the chronic low grade anxiety. What I keep in mind is you can’t go from negative to positive just like that. So finding things to do that help me move the needle towards positive, healthier has helped tremendously in terms of reducing the crash cycle because it takes a huge toll. Example- Watching a show that has other people dealing with life or death circumstances or really high stakes is calming for me when I’m anxious because it’s stimulating the “rush” and getting my mind off of my own issues but I’m also not actually taking on those problems once I turn it off. Or just commenting/relying on this app because I can offer help and advice (especially if I haven’t been physically able to help others or do something to mange the energy) but I can actually leave it here. Sometimes I feel like that’s bad, but then I just remind myself I’m doing the best I can to manage and it looks different everyday. And sometimes I need a break from my mind, and that’s ok in moderation with boundaries. My purpose is to overflow so if I feel like I’m coming from a place of lack or I need something then I don’t get on here. I try to figure out what I need and a healthier way to give that to myself. In a sense, trying to create a boundary where helping people is sacred and not to get my needs met and also not continue the cycle. It’s a work in progress…

    • KitKat1450

      673d

      Yes nearly all the time. I’ve actually realized I am so much better when shit is actually hitting the fan- hurricane, military, life or death situations because it calms my anxiety and It feels like my emotional or “problems” literally don’t matter. And since I function with high anxiety it’s like ah finally I get to handle what I thought would happen in a worst case scenario. It sounds really messed up but most of my friends from when I was in the military feel similar. Like normal life is torture, too much time to not be ok and that doesn’t feel ok. I also realized working with other people in a demanding job helped me have less anxiety overall because I couldn’t perform if I focused on that. So for me I know now that if I have a bigger goal than just making it thru the day o function much better. But since my health has been the worst it has the last few years I literally cannot put myself in those situations for long anymore and they absolutely have consequences of not being able to get out of bed due to pain for days… I end up back in the same cycle again. I love obstacles but then I realize I’ve created obstacles just to overcome and I’m too exhausted for that. So in the past few years I’ve been trying to work on that and I suppose being in more reality so I can focus on what is actually important. It helps but it’s still so much back and forth. Going to the worst case scenario and playing that out does really help me release the anxiety because I get to a point where I know if this happens I’ll do this and handle it versus some huge dark cloud and running only off of fear. Sometimes it just feels like I’m stuck in a mind game and I just want a break like you said.

    • Jellobrain

      673d

      I literally have a hard time explaining that this is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I lay in bed more often because sleep is so much better than reality. I’m not even lazy and I don’t want to be but I’m so exhausted.

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