Feeling Lonely and Sad When Alone

I haven’t heard from my ex in about 2 weeks now and it’s after he reached out to me. (M here) I think that what doesn’t help is that we lived together and had dogs… in the end he decided he wanted to leave. My add really impacted me during COVID and I recognize I have habits to change and things to improve related to it. Other hand he cheated on me 6 times atleast and then I believe I realized in the end he still was talking to others… he left, took the dogs, and has been so disconnected. I hate coming home because it’s so quiet and I feel so empty/unlovable… today has been such a struggle especially.

I feel this way a lot. My anxiety, stress, depression. All that goes away around my friends. It feels like I can only be okay with them

i’m in the same boat, i’m not sure if boredom has anything to do with it, but i noticed i get lost in my thoughts when i’m alone

I was accused of a lot, toxic, gaslighting, narcissistic, when like I truly don’t understand how.. I was trying to work with them and try to mend our relationship. In the end they said they couldn’t continue which I must respect and would not want to force but this was after I found a text message from an unknown person telling them to find a partner… when we didn’t break up yet.. so yea.. idk it’s just confusing and tough

It’s a mental battle that I’m struggling with. It’s hard to see life will get better at this time

Yea I just don’t see how I’d be a narcissist that’s what’s so concerning to me. It’s hardest because they left abruptly and took our dogs… I haven’t heard from them when they reached out in about 2 week now and it’s just like sad, obviously lol, that you go from being their everything and being with them to being strangers and not even communicating.

I’ve really struggled with this too. Nothing is wrong with you. It’s really hard to feel comfortable and safe in your own mind and body when going through depression or other illnesses. My fear of being alone caused me to be in a constant spiral without really realizing it. Thankfully it got a little easier with medication but it helped me realize time alone can really be cherished as hard as it is to do. It gives you time to comfort yourself, time to do things that you genuinely enjoy doing, it gives you time to process your emotions, and it gives you time to ground yourself. Learning how to be content in your own presence can be hard to do at first, but with time you may start to enjoy the time you have with yourself. Just know that you’re not alone in what you’re going through and you’ll always have someone in your corner. I hope you feel better friend :)

please don’t feel like you’re alone in this - this is super common with depression. you will run into people who just don’t get it and will scare you from being honest and vulnerable with them. just know these people aren’t worth it in the long run. if your community has one and you feel like it could be a safe space, i would recommend maybe group therapy since you like the company or others! i truly think that would help you a lot and give you a safe space in this time of your life. good luck with everything darling 💕

It’s really hard especially when you love the job! Turns you away form something that gives you happiness because of someone’s actions! This narcism stuff is so scary to me, I would rather not harm others and strengthen my relationships. The people I love just don’t seem to stay unfortunately. This recent relationship was the toughest because it had its ups and downs but I saw we just had work to do. I wanted to put in the work and I did a lot but maybe not in the areas that were more desired on their part I guess and long story short they just moved on like quick.. disappointing and sad. :-/

That’s fascinating!

Would you say that it has been better since the incident or about the same? Feeling wise

I agree aswell, it is very helpful to talk because what we bottle in really eats at us. I know that I usually feel so much better when I talk to someone about what’s weighing me down

I very much appreciate that you shared your story with me. It can be hard and I know that, I value your openness

I’m so sorry to hear that, no one should be put in that position. When you mention taking accountability for your action and talk what do you mean? My partner cheated multiple times, I had personality habits to improve (self discipline I think and self worth) which may have contributed to the demise of it all.. what really scares me is that my partner accused me of gaslighting but I don’t see how that happened. I tried very hard to mend the relationship. I’m afraid of being a narcissist myself, as it was made to sound

I live alone now, my partner left… I’ve moved out for a long time from my parents but the dynamic is very dysfunctional I’m learning. I’m scared to overwhelm my friends