Feeling like an outsider

I relate to a lot of this. I feel very very isolated because I experience life in such a vastly different way, everyday conversations make me realize how far apart I really am from 99% of people. There are things that they just cannot understand. I’m lucky I found one person who has some experience so that we can relate. I know I’m very lucky for this and he is an extremely important and valued part of my life. Point being, there are people who can relate and understand. It’s just hard to find them. A big win is just finding someone who wants to, who tries to understand. And it’s ok if they cannot really understand. You don’t have control over that, it’s just how it is. But just because no one understands doesn’t mean you’re alone. You are still cared about. Crazy how many people can relate to being lonely

I also struggled finding people to talk to. I don’t like gossip or small talk. I prefer to talk about how I or you feel. I’m very honest. Although people say that’s what they want I’ve found very often it isn’t. I used to be sarcastic and joking but my experience has changed me and I don’t joke too often now. I’ve always walked to the best of my own drum and never just did or agreed with something because everyone else did. It’s hard and lonely but if I acted to be accepted I’d be disappointed in myself and feel I lost my honor. I’ve realized that when you have no one to talk to when you do I’ve just blurted out everything which doesn’t go over well. I more intelligent at a lot of things but stuff that seems to come natural to people I can be a complete idiot. There’s nothing wrong with you. I think we’re just wired a little different and there’s more of us out there. There just not easy to find and you have to go thru a lot of failed attempts that is sad, hurtful, lonely, and makes you feel like you don’t belong. But in all honesty we’re the ones who belong because a lot of people who are successful are willing to cross lines we won’t

I feel this so hard. No matter how hard i try, i cannot make friends beyond acquaintances. I feel so alone all by myself. Let me know if you wanna try to chat or something!

You are not alone in feeling this way. I myself am the same as well as my husband. We often have conversations about this very thing and trying to fit in with work or our families. For me, I have come to know God and while that relationship isn't perfect, it has helped when I get down about not having friends and what not. The other thing too is, loving yourself the way you are and going about the world having fun for you. Eventually someone somewhere comes along.

Your not alone i feel the same way but instead of being serious all the time im more of a 28 year old big kid and no one else does that in our family. Mines cause of my schizophrenia but it still makes me feel alone cause no one understands cause no one in my family has schizophrenia.

Sometimes, when we feel like no one understands us, regardless of our diagnosis, it is up to us to assert ourselves with kindness and charity through service to others. I am not a shy quiet person, but I'm very different from the population at large. I have very rare Syndromes that consist of underlying diseases that I silently fight every day. Very few people, men especially understand what it's like to be me. I learned not to establish my self worth off of what others think of me, or what is "wrong" with me. I have learned to enjoy being alone, and independent. I also try to find ways to help people. Even if it's just 1 person that I hold the door for while they have their hands full. Whether it's groceries, children, or their own disability. The smallest thing you can do to help, can make a big difference to people. That gives me self worth. There are a lot of little things you get opportunities to do for others. It's what you DO that makes a difference, not how toy look.

I can relate to how you are feeling. Invisible is a lonely place. Feel free to message me.

You’re not alone in feeling this way