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Solarwolf

604d

I really hate that I have a job. I mean, I'm glad that I finally feel well enough (physically & mentally) to work (just 2 days a week at a farming store), but each day I come home stressed out, my legs killing me, & then either I have to do it again the next day or I have a ton of chores to catch up on or a ton of homework from college due. I've felt burnt out for years now & I'm not even 30! I don't look forward to work like I tell my partner, because I don't want him to know how burnt out I am & how this job (which is very social, which I don't like, but we need the extra money) is just making everything worse.

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    • Solarwolf

      602d

      @MrsB3922 one issue. It requires u to have a car (which I technically do but it's my partners) & to drive (gave up my license because I can't drive anymore due to PTSD). I would have done those however if I could drive. There's a local store where u shop for others (like Instacart) then just bring it to their cars! It's its own position, so not like I would b a cashier as well, but they rejected my application. But I cannot lie, doing something like door dash would b cool cuz I'm good w directions (& I wouldn't steal customers drinks!)

    • DandelionFairy

      602d

      I just started working on the weekends myself. I have only worked for a few weekends, but I'm exhausted every night. I tripled my step count the first day and it hasn't slowed down. I love the people I work with and around, but 'peopling' is highly stressful for me. So far, I've just come home, kicked my shoes off, ate dinner, and gone to bed. I then don't do ANY chores on Sat, Sun, or Mon as I need the break. By Tuesday, I'm human and motivated again. Hope this helps somehow.

    • Bridgette

      604d

      Is there a way that your husband could go get a job and you stay home with your daughter? That's part of your talk with him your personal business but yah do what you need to do to be mentally okay that's most important than any job.

      • Solarwolf

        602d

        @Bridgette yea, I sound kinda whiny & really don't mean to, but I have no better to word anything DX

      • Solarwolf

        602d

        @Bridgette unfortunately we can't afford that. My partner was working already but we needed more money. He suggested he get a second job (which we ended up n a huge conversation of y he shouldn't) but I ended up w a job so he could relax for 2 days finally. I don't mind working overall, but it's just difficult finding a job that doesn't affect me n the bad ways (like I don't mind overall stress from work, ik I can't avoid it, but it just makes it rly hard when my work has me do task that straight up mess w me mentally (for example, where I work has a gun area. I've been sent there a lot to help out despite telling them that I can't do that because I've had some bad Experience w guns & their users. Work doesn't care, just says to do my job. & No, HR was no help when I told them)

    • MrsB3922

      604d

      Can I make a suggestion? Try gig work (UberEats, DoorDash, etc). You work when YOU want to with no one micromanaging you or telling you you're late, or asking why you're calling in. I've been doing it since September 2021 and I truly enjoy it-- I make pretty decent money and I meet lots of interesting people. However, not too much interaction is needed if you're having a bad day or whatnot.

      • Solarwolf

        602d

        @MrsB3922 one issue. It requires u to have a car (which I technically do but it's my partners) & to drive (gave up my license because I can't drive anymore due to PTSD). I would have done those however if I could drive. There's a local store where u shop for others (like Instacart) then just bring it to their cars! It's its own position, so not like I would b a cashier as well, but they rejected my application. But I cannot lie, doing something like door dash would b cool cuz I'm good w directions (& I wouldn't steal customers drinks!)

      • Bridgette

        604d

        @MrsB3922 yes those are good suggestions! Love work when you want jobs and yes not to much human interaction

    • Kendra363

      604d

      I get it. Working is hard. It may help to find a job you really enjoy. Of course no job is perfect, but having a job you hate makes it so much worse.

    • Boston23

      604d

      Trust me girl, I get it I ended up quitting my job after 7 years to due the stresses and being overworked, I just restarted working for a company after a year not working for a company, I decided on a less stress receptionist job while I attempt school it's def not easy, but it will get done. Sorry you are struggling, just know you aren't the only one and if you need to talk, I'm here.

    • Hannah_6

      604d

      Maybe you just need a different job. I take a day to clean the house. I was working two jobs and trying to keep the house clean. I understand the whole money for bills and anxiety while working. If you drop me a message, I would be happy to talk about what's going on. I'm back at McDonald's about to get ready to walk for a 10 am shift ,but someone's gotta do it since my hubby's gotta stay home and watch Mia our daughter.

    • Cloudlight

      604d

      I think being honest with your partner could help a lot with the stress. You aren't required to love or even like your job, but having to hide your stress and fatigue both ar work and at home will only increase the speed of your burnout.

      • Solarwolf

        604d

        @Cloudlight we have been working on better communication recently, & I think he notices when I'm overly stressed from work, but yea I'll definitely have to talk w him better :( we r getting married in Oct & this isn't something small like "I've not told u about the 3 years I wore fake nails" or something random like that)

        • Cloudlight

          603d

          @Solarwolf That's good! I'm glad you two can work on improving communication with effort from both parties. It may feel like too big of a truth to bring down at once, but I think that if you're honest about how embarrassed/ashamed you felt for not liking your work he'll be more understanding. Since you're getting married soon (congrats!) its important to practice the kind of communication you want to see in the relationship going forwards, and I see this as a good opportunity for you to address an intimidating obstacle and learn how both of you react so that you know how to better handle similar things in the future!

    • YanyLaurel

      604d

      That sounds really rough I'm really sorry! :/ How long have you had this job? I hope it gets better or something changes

      • Solarwolf

        604d

        @YanyLaurel about 2 months now :(

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