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_Robbie_

670d

Does anyone else feel ashamed for being too sensitive? I feel really alone, like I'm the most sensitive and needy person in the world. I have anxiety, I'm pretty sure autism, and depression. I get stressed easily. I get burnt out easily. I panic very easily. I get my feelings hurt and get discouraged easily. I cry and spiral at small inconveniences, they all seem so big to me. When I'm stressed especially, and in general, I need a lot of emotional and mental support. I need a lot of extra help. If I'm not able to get this extra emotional and mental support, I can't function properly. I get burnt out, I get depressed, I have ongoing anxiety attacks. I feel ridiculous and dramatic and weak and annoying, all the time. I live in a constant 24/7 state of intense guilt and shame and self hatred. I'm so disappointed in myself, and I'm very convinced that other are disappointed in me too even if they say they aren't. Here I am, asking for reassurance again. Is it ok to be this way? I'm so ashamed, should I be ashamed? What if I can't fix this and it's just how I am? My personality? Is that even acceptable, is that ok? Am I too much? Should I work on accepting this part of myself or should I try to make it go away? Please be honest. I need to know.

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    • TheSpectator

      669d

      I feel this all the time, I feel like I'm being a crybaby and being a basic white girl who is just trying to find something to complain about. Don't worry too much about this as your emotions are valid, even if you feel this way, that feeling is valid as well.

    • TheSpectator

      669d

      I feel this all the time, I feel like I'm being a crybaby and being a basic white girl who is just trying to find something to complain about. Don't worry too much about this as your emotions are valid, even if you feel this way, that feeling is valid as well.

    • Hannahchlarson1

      670d

      I feel that way, my cousin showed up and I was crying in my family's trailer after he showed up. My mom was like, "come spend time with your cousin"

    • Kerstion

      670d

      I feel the same way and I keep quiet and I'm afraid of speaking up

      • TheSpectator

        669d

        @Kerstion me too

    • Lunarr

      670d

      If it's affecting you then it's real and you shouldn't be made to feel shameful, dramatic, annoying, or weak. Everyone has different thresholds for stress and different needs, it's not bad or wrong that yours may differ to those around you or that you may require more accommodations. I agree that it seems your needs aren't being met. Something like breaking tasks into small, achievable parts and taking frequent breaks in a quiet enviroment may help you greatly, you just have to give yourself the opportunity and space to figure out what works and what doesn't even if some actions may seem "dramatic" or "weak" (this is internalized ableism talking, don't let it control you, you are worth it and you deserve accommodations to help you feel safe, calm, and functional)

      • _Robbie_

        670d

        @Lunarr It's ok to need these accommodations? Sometimes I feel like I'm a burden or I'm not "good enough" or "strong enough" because like I said, I NEED those things or I can't function. But,, it's ok to need those things? It's not something I need to change or feel bad about? I mean, if I could change them I would, but I think it's just me.

        • Lunarr

          670d

          @_Robbie_ Absolutely it's fine! This world is built for healthy (mentally and physically), neurotypical people. It doesn't inherently work for folks like us who don't fit that bill. I used to feel the same way about accommodations, I think everyone does at first because of how society is. It's not your fault that you function differently because it's just that, different. You're not lesser because you have a different set of needs and you don't need to change these inherent things about you and the way you function to fit into the mold others want you to. You shouldn't have to power through something and end up hurting or overwhelming yourself when there is an easier way. The guilt and shame you feel is internalized ableism, as I said above, and it's something you will have to work to unlearn. I'm still aflicted by it sometimes, it's a constant journey. I recommend looking into the autistic and ADHD communities and their discussions on ableism and unmasking. I also suspect I'm autistic and, even if I'm not, reading about their experiences and tips helped me immensely. You can do this, you're not alone!

    • clowntown

      670d

      It sounds to me that your needs aren't getting met, and possibly that the people around you are unable to meet those needs. That's not your fault! It sounds like you need to communicate your needs more, and find resources and people who are better suited to meet those needs

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