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xlovelyx

742d

What is the best way to explain to others, who have not experienced depression, what it feels like on a bad day and why I can’t just “get over it”?

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    • SammyNova

      740d

      We can't just get over it because it's a paradoxical mental illness. We need motivation to convince ourselves do things that make us feel better, but the illness is that we lost our motivation and energy to do anything at all. When someone says they wish I would just be happier or more motivated, I say "Well that's why depression is a mental illness." And I try to improve for myself and not for anyone else.

    • SammyNova

      740d

      We can't just get over it because it's a paradoxical mental illness. We need motivation to convince ourselves do things that make us feel better, but the illness is that we lost our motivation and energy to do anything at all. When someone says they wish I would just be happier or more motivated, I say "Well that's why depression is a mental illness." And I try to improve for myself and not for anyone else.

    • SimplySassy

      740d

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    • NEW

      741d

      I had to explain this once to a brother figure. I explain that: imagine you’re in the ocean, the middle of the ocean, the little waves will come and go when you overcome them, but then a storm starts coming in and you’re hit wave by wave until you are struggling and you’re fighting for your life

      • xlovelyx

        740d

        @NEW that’s a great visual that I think many people could understand! Thank you!

    • Ariana_Felicitas

      742d

      I myself always need medication and routine to be okay . Even sometimes I have my moment .

      • xlovelyx

        740d

        @Ariana_Felicitas thank you for replying!

    • Ariana_Felicitas

      742d

      To imagine having the worst day of there life . Getting fired or going through a break up or even death in family . Having depressed can make life feel incredibly difficult.

      • xlovelyx

        740d

        @Ariana_Felicitas thank you so much for your reply!

    • Randa

      742d

      If feels like being covered in a heavy blanket that makes everything more difficult and energy consuming. It feels like nothing is important enough to exert the energy required and like there's no hope that anything is going to get better. The only thing I want when I'm like that is sleep and to be alonr

      • xlovelyx

        742d

        @Randa thank you for answering my question! Your explanation was exactly how I feel. I completely identify with the feeling that nothing is important enough to exert energy for. I guess I feel dramatic when I explain it similarly to this, but that is honestly how it feels. It’s difficult being surrounded by people who have never experienced depression or those who don’t want to say that they or anyone else has depression. I was told too long to “pray the depression away” and that got me no where. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts.

        • Iwantkoreanhotdogs

          741d

          @xlovelyx praying the depression away is definitely not good advice but if you are religious it’s always nice to have a being to confide and find comfort in. It takes much more than prayer and faith to get rid of depression but maybe your spiritual journey could act like a crutch almost, just help you on your feet!

    • RockFriend

      742d

      we have different mindsets than them. we hyper fixate on what is bothering us or is putting us in a depressive episode. when we deal with sadness, we don’t put it behind us. it takes a toll on our body and everything we do. we blame ourselves for what happened. we overthink everything. i hope this helps at least a little bit

      • xlovelyx

        742d

        @RockFriend thank you so much for replying! I like the way you talked about it taking a toll on our body and everything we do. That is a perfect way to describe the constant heaviness to someone who has never felt it.

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