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anyone else either fighting the urge to or actively ask people after being ghosted (platonic or romantic) what they did wrong from a social skills standpoint so you can learn and memorize?
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@sockz4dobby thank you and ikr. i hate how ghosting it’s a new “social norm” when it’s the worst thing you can do to someone. everyone deserves so much better than that 🥺💕
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Yes, for sure. For me, im lowkey sensitive to ghosted. I’ve had a history of me mirroring peoples personality pretty severely. Or I will memorize the traits of other people that seemingly have good social skills and what they do in certain situations
@Patt ah same! But just started doing it with any success lol
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a awhile ago my ex boyfriend ghosted me. never told me why or that he wanted to break up. made it seem like everything was fine then he fell off the face of the earth. all i wanted to know was what i did wrong. i found out a year later when my friend bumped into him and got it out of him cause she wanted me to have some sort of piece. only to find out he ghosted me because he didn’t like the fact that i have ARFID (an eating disorder of being very very picky with food) and hated having to go somewhere specific every time so i could get some fries. and he hated that i wasn’t 21 yet so i couldn’t go out to a bar with him and drink even tho he’d just turn 21 a few months before. all i learned from that was was that i deserved so much better than how he treated me. someone who understands me and would still love me for me. if anyone every ghosts you, don’t blame yourself. because i can guarantee it’s not you. you deserve better than that. put yourself first and just take it one day at a time to move forward and know someone out there will treat you so much better than that. for relationship or friendships 💕
@kieanne I'm so sorry that happened to you nobody deserves that. It just seems like ghosting is a social norm in this day in age. Imo I think it's rude, disrespectful and super inconsiderate but it's like just a day to day thing.
trust me when I say it is incredibly worth it to find people who love you for who you are. Besides my husband, I have two roommates who are both Nerodivergent. They know me as I am, and I know them as they are and it's really beautiful. Be you. You will find others who love you as you are
Honestly, no. If me as myself is not good enough, the relationship won't be viable anyway. My husband and I started dating 7 years ago today. Our big secret is that we're both autistic and so we use direct and intentional communication. We are unabashedly ourselves and neither of us have to pretend to be something we aren't. Be yourself even if you get ghosted because pretending to be someone you aren't isn't sustainable or fair in a long term relationship, or any relationship really.
@squeekyjaxx thank you it feels like a fine line between masking and living forever alone
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