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lilbean34

208d

My disabilities are ruining my friendships :( what do I do?

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    • Redvelninja

      173d

      I would suggest befriending people who have similar conditions as you.

    • Redvelninja

      173d

      I would suggest befriending people who have similar conditions as you.

    • anniidoll13

      206d

      So it sounds harsh but she's not exactly a real friend if she's using your pain like this. Don't get me wrong, I know how hard it is to be around me when I'm in constant pain, or a doctor has called me names, or someone has told me it's all in my head, but my friends all tell me to take a second to breathe, they all try to make my life easier, even if it's bringing me a chocolate muffin and a red bull on a Friday night because I can't get out of bed. It's hard when you're young and everyone is out having a great time and you're stuck in bed crying in agony, but real ones won't mind a night in with pizza and games while you prop yourself in the comfiest position and just chill.

      • lilbean34

        200d

        @anniidoll13 thank you 🫶🏼 I agree

    • CathyK

      207d

      I'm not gonna lie. I get what she means even though I completely get how you're feeling! It feels a little insensitive in my biased opinion. If she really does leave I don't think you should be worried for your friendship. I'm also in university. When we left highschool I was terrified that my friends would ditch me since "they had no reason to deal with me" and I could never be that "go with the flow friend" but the ones that really cared about me kept checking in on me. We still text about life and dumb things. AND there's the wonder of scheduling. I know I can't just go out and do whatever for an indefinite amount of time so I make sure my friends understand that and we schedule time. Most importantly, whatever you can handle or do is it! There is no reason to feel guilty!!! Real friends understand that.

      • lilbean34

        200d

        @CathyK thank you 🫶🏼

    • CathyK

      208d

      Wait! Wdym? I completely get not being able to be with my friends as much, but I hope they're not being judgemental or insensitive!

      • lilbean34

        208d

        @CathyK I’m in university right now and become really close friends with someone so we are roommates this year, but she told me she is moving dorms at the end of the semester which leaves me alone. She said it’s hard for her to be around when I’m struggling/in a lot of pain because it affects her mood and she feels guilty that she can’t help me. On some levels I get that, but I’m so hurt because we used to be best friends. I really just need support and I feel so guilty that I can’t just be a go with the flow friend.

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Some suggestions include being upfront about your mental and physical conditions with your friends, suggesting activities that are suitable for your condition, and finding online support groups. It's important to remember that real friends will stick around and understand your situation.

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