See Alike in...

Alike App

Browser

420pigeon

875d

i just wish i could break a bone or get cancer so people would actually care about me and my pain. how do i not break my own foot with a hammer

Top reply
    • thepatrynreader

      873d

      I know it’s extremely challenging to decouple what we’re taught and told about acute pain (like a broken bone) versus chronic pain, and it’s OK to be angry or defeated about it, to feel your emotions in the hopes they’ll have their lifetime and settle, at least for a bit. You aren’t alone with how frustrating it is to have conditions that don’t seem to have winnable fights, like cancer, clearly mapped out (I was legit thinking about this earlier). For myself, when I find myself thinking about being diagnosed with cancer or being hospitalized, it’s because those events seem so much easier to face and get through than this ongoing, ever unpredictable chronic pain. For me, I try to sit with what that event would give me, if I had it. Chronic pain is an invisible illness (in a society’s lens kind of way), and pain isn’t comparable, yet we’re told all the time we have to PROVE our pain is real and that we’re not weak and whatever other ableist, capitalist bull.

    • Mystical03

      873d

      I agree that a lot of drs don’t take autoimmune symptoms seriously. I’m sorry your struggling. 🙏 🤗

    • Trina

      873d

      I feel you on this!!!!! People can’t see it so they have no idea how to understand it ❤️

    • thepatrynreader

      873d

      I guess I don’t have a recommendation short of trying to ID why a more socially acceptable condition is more appealing, and try to figure out if you can stimulate that being given to yourself without self harm? When I need to feel like I can see a battle ahead of me, with clear cut strategies, I focus in on day my hand pain and figure out what I can do to reduce it, even for a moment, knowing it will come back. IDK if this helps 💚

    • thepatrynreader

      873d

      I know it’s extremely challenging to decouple what we’re taught and told about acute pain (like a broken bone) versus chronic pain, and it’s OK to be angry or defeated about it, to feel your emotions in the hopes they’ll have their lifetime and settle, at least for a bit. You aren’t alone with how frustrating it is to have conditions that don’t seem to have winnable fights, like cancer, clearly mapped out (I was legit thinking about this earlier). For myself, when I find myself thinking about being diagnosed with cancer or being hospitalized, it’s because those events seem so much easier to face and get through than this ongoing, ever unpredictable chronic pain. For me, I try to sit with what that event would give me, if I had it. Chronic pain is an invisible illness (in a society’s lens kind of way), and pain isn’t comparable, yet we’re told all the time we have to PROVE our pain is real and that we’re not weak and whatever other ableist, capitalist bull.

    • LaurElizabeth

      875d

      I am sorry you are having such a hard time and I agree only you will know how bad it is and others shouldn’t do or say anything to invalidate that. It is so hard living with pain and you don’t need to prove it to anyone ❤️

    • UnluckyUnicorn

      875d

      Your pain is as real, valid, and disruptive to your daily life as other conditions. You’re the only one who can feel what you do. If people aren’t respectful of what your limitations and needs are then you need to set boundaries and stick to them. You already live with a lot of pain, don’t add unnecessary suffering to appease others expectations.

☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.

Want to chat or share? Download the Alike app now and get complete access to Alike.health's unique features.

Find people who are
experiencing a similar
medical reality

100% Free
100%
Free

Download Alike for the full experience

JOIN

View All

Bupropion

night sweats

paranoid

Valium

sertraline

palpitations

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Depression

palpitations

Depression

Valium

Bupropion