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I used to really struggle with the same sort of issue, I needed to resolve an issue as soon as it came up and couldn't cope if I couldn't resolve it. My psychologist helped me regrade my 'inaction' as action. When you think about it inaction when you're emotional is actually more difficult than action, so even though you think you're not doing anything you're making a conscious decision not to do anything which in effect is doing something and it's doing something much harder than giving into the impulse of trying to do something. It helps me buy a bit of time to be a bit more rational in my approach to things (sometimes only a few minutes) which generally leads to a better outcome. I hope that helps, even if only a little bit.