Dealing with Resentment as a 'Problematic' Alter

For others who are seen as the 'problematic' alters of the system, how do you deal with the resentment you build up from others. I feel as though my personality is too much of a contrast with the host that many of the host's friends dislike me after only having met me a few times. I've done my best to be cordial and polite, but where my host is quiet and more shy, I am not and tend to be more brash and vulgar. I've reigned in a lot of my personality but it still doesn't seem to be gaining me anything. I'm constantly getting asked when the host will be back and have no allies. tldr: I feel like shit because nobody likes me even when I'm trying my best